Ukuba usentsapho, umntwana ubona ukuziphatha kwabazali kwaye uyamkela njengomgangatho. Okokuthi, ukuba kwintsapho yentsapho - "bhiyozela" utywala kungekhona nje ngeeholide kuphela, kodwa, nakwesihlanu ngeveki kunye neveki; , utata usetyenziswa njalo emva kobusuku emva komsebenzi "ukususa ubisi" ubhiya - inkunzi iya kuthathela ingqalelo utywala njengento yendalo yokutya kwansuku zonke - njengesonka, okanye itiye. Kwaye, ukuba abazali baqala ukuthetha naye malunga nokuba ukusela kuyingozi - kuya kuba kukungqubuzana okungenanto kwemoya. Emva kwakho konke, kufuneka ukwazi indlela yokuxelela umntwana malunga nokulimala kotywala ngokuchanekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, abazali abafuna ukuphakamisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kotywala kumntwana akufanele benze imikhosi ehlala rhoqo phambi koonyana. Ungabonakali ukusetyenziswa kotywala "kwimpilo", "ukufudumala," "kwixinzelelo" - oku kunokunika umntwana inkolelo enkohliso malunga neenzuzo zokusela. Musa ukuxininisa ukuba utywala ngabantu abadala, ngaphandle koko umntwana angase aqale ukusela ukuze abonakale ekhulile.
Unako ukubeka ingqalelo kumntwana kwisitrato, njengoko inxila ibonakala ngathi - ngelishwa, kukho imizekelo eninzi ngexesha lethu. Ifomu engathandekiyo, elahlekileyo yomntu, kwiingubo ezingcolileyo, ngamehlo angcolileyo, intetho engahambelaniyo kunye nevumba elimuncu - ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, unomphumo ongenakulibaleka kumntwana (kwimeko enjalo, ukuba kunjalo, ukuba akawuboni abalinganiswa bentsapho yakhe).
Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ukuze kucaciswe umntwana zonke iinguqu kunye nokuphendula imibuzo yakhe, kubalulekile ukubamba ingxoxo malunga neengozi zotywala. Ngoko makhe sithethe ngendlela yokuxelela umntwana ngeengozi zotywala.
Kwintetho, thintela ukuqeqesha iingqondo. Ши Cши Cши д Cши Cши Cши д + Cши Cши д + Cши Cши д Cши Cши Cши + C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C Akuyimfuneko ukuthetha: "Utywala bugqitywa ngabantu ababi," okanye "Abafazi kuphela abaye baxoshwa kwaye bavumelekile ukuba bashiye" akuyiyo. Xa uvakalelwa ngamanga malunga nolwazi, umntwana uya kubuza konke. I-C C C C C C C C C C C C C Chor Chor Chor Chor Chor д Cшиши Chor Chor C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C
Okokuqala, sitshele ngento yokuba utywala awumlutha kungekuphela kwengqondo, kodwa nakwizinga lokuphila. Oko kukuthi, umzimba womntu oye waxhomekeka kwi-booze, usungula inkqubo yokutshatyalaliswa. Qinisekisa umntwana ukuba ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kunokubangelwa kuphela ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala obuqilima, kodwa nangomkhuba wokuqhayisa ibhotile yobhiya okanye intonga ye-cocktail ephantsi.
Bhala izifo zendabuko zabantu abasebenzisa kakubi utywala. Kodwa, ungagxininiseki ukuba izifo "zonakalisa" umzimba womntu, kodwa ziziphi iingxaki isigulane esifumanayo: ukungakwazi ukusetyenziswa, ukubonakala kwingozi ekubonakalayo, njalo njalo. Kwaye, ngaphezu kwezifo, ukusela utywala kuholele ekutshintsheni komntu. Ukususela kumntu okhululekileyo olawula ubomi bakhe, ngaphantsi kwefuthe lokubakho, umntu unokuba yinceku engakwaziyo nayiphi na impumelelo, kunye nokulahlekelwa intlonelo kwintsapho kunye nabahlobo, okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo.
Tshela umntwana ukuba uphelele kwi-90% yazo zonke iinkqubo zolwaphulo-mthetho xa zityilisiwe. Kwaye, abaninzi, abo benza izenzo ezingenakulinganiswa, abazange bafune ukwenza oku. Ngokulula, ngaphantsi komthelela wotywala, umntu "izimpukane" zithintelo zokukhusela ezingekho, kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, zikhokelela ekuhlaseleni. Uninzi lweengxabano ezidabukisayo zazingagwenywa, ekubeni zibandakanyeke kwiimeko ezinzulu. Ukuxilwa kwezithulu kukukhokelela kwinani elikhulu lokufa. Yintoni, yodwa, iifomati kwengozi yendlela, abaphangi abangabantu abangenakuxanduva, abafumana emva kwesondo phantsi kwefuthe lotywala.
Ukuphuhlisa iindinyana eziqhelekileyo malunga notywala: utywala aluncedi ukufudumala ebusweni, aluyikunciphisa uxinzelelo, aluyikunciphisa uxinzelelo lwegazi, alukhulisi amandla kwaye aluphilisi. Umnxila angeze afunde ukusela ngokumodareyitha - unako kuphela, ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo ukusela, ukuba ufumana unyango kwaye ubonisa ukunyanzeliswa okuphawulekayo.
Sitshele ngomngcipheko wokutyhefuza ngotywala ophantsi. Inyaniso yokuba utywala uthengwa ententeni kwaye "ukusuka ngaphantsi komgangatho" - mhlawumbi, inokuba yinkohliso. Ukusetyenziswa kwezi ziphuzo ezinxantisayo kungabiza kakhulu - ukusuka ekulahlekelweni kwamehlo ekulahlekeni kobomi.
Ukutshatyalaliswa ngokukhethekileyo isiselo esithandwa ngabantu abaselula - iimbophu ezinqabileyo zamathanga - inetyhefu esemthethweni. Ngokukodwa, malunga neyona nto inobungozi kubo - ngokukongezwa kwabanjineli bamandla. Umxholo wokusela utywala yi-1.5 ukuya kweyesihlandlo ephakamileyo kunomgangatho webhiya. Kwaye imichiza yamakhemikhali eyenzeka kule mijelo isoloko iyingozi ngakumbi kunokuba, ngokuthe ngqo, utywala.
Kufanelekile ukukhankanya, kwakhona, ukuba utywala yi shishini elenza ingeniso. Kwaye, ngelixa abantwana abathandanayo, bexhaswa kwizentengiso, banquma "ngubani oya kulandela uKlinsky" (c), oomama abangcolileyo bayabheka imali (kwaye baninzi). Kwaye, ngokukhawuleza ngokunyanzelisa ukuba abanye abantu abantwana bayalimaza impilo yabo. Ngokuphambene noko - abatsha abancikiweyo baya kuxhomekeka kwimveliso eveliswa ngamashishini abo, ogqithiseleyo baya kuba yimali. Kungenxa yale njongo ukuba ukukhangisa kubhekiswe kubaphulaphuli bentsha kususwe: abantu abaselula bayonwabile, basele kwaye bakhangele phambili, "bepholile". Khetha ezikhangayo kwiimpawu zentsholongwane - "zipholile" - zibiza umlimi owaziwayo. Umalume, ngendlela, abazisebenzisi iimveliso zabo - bathanda iziphuzo ezintle.
Namela abantu abaphumelelayo abantwana abanengqondo yokukhulula, ukulawula lula ubomi babo, bengathembeli apho okukhoyo kuya khona. Bona-ihlabathi lonke ezandleni zabo - abanalo ixesha lokuhlala emnyango ngotywala. Umntu okhokela indlela yokuphila enempilo - amaninzi amaninzi amandla, amandla okuphumeza iinjongo ezicwangcisiweyo kunabantu abanemikhwa emibi. Ukongezelela, umntu ongagcini ingqondo yakhe ivulekele amathuba amatsha, unalo uluhlu olubanzi lwazo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ubomi obugcwele ngokugcwele, obuzeleyo.
Indlela yokuthetha ngengozi yotywala kumntwana wakho - ngamnye umzali ngokwakhe uyasombulula le ngxaki. Kodwa, okokuqala, abantu abadala kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba abantwana banamathemba ngakumbi oko bakubona ngamehlo abo kunokuba baxoxe ngezona zifundo.