Kwaye yonke le mizuzu ibilisa kumbuzo omnye oyintloko: yintoni amadoda ayilindelwe kwi-sex fragile, luhlobo luni lokuziphatha kunye nemilinganiselo abayithandayo kakhulu kwiqabane? Ngokuqinisekileyo, impendulo kuyo ayikwazi ukungaqondakali. Awukwazi ukukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba bonke abantu bafana. Ngandlela-thile bafana ngokufanayo: banesigqeba esisodwa sezitho, kukho iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zabasetyhini abasuka kumfazi, kwaye ingqiqo yabo ikhethekileyo. Kodwa ngobudlelwane, wonke umntu ngumntu. Kwaye ukuqonda ukuba yintoni enye indoda efuna ukuyibona kumfazi wayo oyingqayizivele kwaye oyingqayizivele uya kuncedwa kuphela ngenye indlela: ingqalelo kwiminqweno yakhe evezwe ngokuvakalayo okanye ebonakalayo kwinqanaba elinobuchule.
Kukho, ngokwenene, ngokuqhelekileyo kwamkelwa i-postulates ifuna ukuba ubuncinci bemimiselo yokuba ibhinqa lomntu wokwenene kufuneka lifanane. Ngaloo ndlela, nawuphi na ummeli wesini esomeleleyo, ngenxa yezizathu ezicacileyo, ufuna ukuqinisekiswa koluntu ngobuntu bakhe. Le yenzelwe amadoda-enesidingo esinqwenelekayo, esinokuzanelisa kuphela umfazi. Kodwa indlela eya kunika ngayo intanda yakhe yinto enqwenela ukuthanda ngayo - kuxhomekeke kuye kuphela. Ingaba yinguqulelo oluqhubekayo lweefom zebhinqa: kukufanelekile ukukhumbula inqaku elidumileyo lokuba umfazi ofanelekileyo ungumhlobo wosuku, ibhinqa elinobuhle obuhle ebusuku kunye nentombazana kunoma iyiphi inkampani. Kanti akukho nto igxininisa ubukhulu bomntu, njengobuntombi. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda athetha abafazi bembethe ngokunyanisekileyo (ngokugqoka, izithende eziphakamileyo, i-pantsuit enhle) kwiimeko ezingama-80 kwi-100. Nangona kunjalo, i-t-shirt kunye ne-jeans ze-baggy ezidibeneyo kunye nama-sneakers endala kwindodakazi nayo ibonakala ibhinqa . Nantsi into exhomekeke kwisitishi somfanekiso wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha uchitha umfazi kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isimbolo seengubo zakhe okanye ukwakheka. Amadoda ayaphoswa ngabafazi abanjalo. Yaye umfazi ngamnye unokuhlakulela iimpawu ezinjalo.
Nangona kunjalo, imiphi imilinganiselo kunye nendlela abaziphatha ngayo njengabantu?
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, bayaziqhenya ngokuzithemba kwabasetyhini. Kuyaziwa ukuba kuphela inkwenkwezi yobukhulu bokuqala izakufaka ingcipheko ngokwayo kunye namalungu afanelekileyo kuluntu. Ngako oko, indoda efanelekileyo kakhulu, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kunye nokwanelisekileyo umfazi uya kukhangela. Kodwa apha umfazi udinga ukukwazi ukuziva, umgca ococekileyo phakathi kokuzithemba nokuzithemba ngokweqile, okwehlisa umntu ofunwa ngabantu abathandanayo. Ibhinqa linokuba ngumhlobo onokuxoxa naye malunga nayo yonke into emkhathazayo. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka ahlale exhomekeke kuye. Akukho izinto eziphathekayo, kodwa ngokwemvakalelo: nayiphi na indoda iyancibilika xa ibhinqa lizama "ukumbamba", likhuphe okanye limanzi emvula.
Umntu ngamnye uzenzela yena imilinganiselo yakhe nokuziphatha, enqwenela ukubhiyozela kwisithandwa sakhe. Kodwa kunoma yimuphi ummeli wesini esomeleleyo unyanzelekile amandla okuba umfazi aphulaphule. Amadoda azincama ngakumbi kunabo abakhethiweyo. Ngoko ke, bathanda ukuthetha nabo ngokwabo. Yaye ininzi yabo bonke bayayixabisa kumfazi ukuba ubuncinane ubuncinane emi-5-7 imizuzu ukuphulaphula i-monologue ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, inzondo yomfazi ukuphula indoda phakathi kwesivakalisi kunye nombuzo oyingqungquthela okanye ibinzana, ukutshintsha ngokuthe ngqo isihloko, samadoda iyacaphukisa kakhulu. Yaye ingongoma apha akukona ukuba akazange abe nexesha lokuthetha into ebaluleke kakhulu ngaye, intanda yakhe, kunye neenkxalabo zakhe azikhathazi nhlobo. Abameli besondo esinamandla kubo bonke ubomi babo balondoloza uhlamvu lwabo ebuntwaneni. Kwaye ukuphazamiseka okunjalo kumlimaza umntu: njengomntwana abazali abafuni ukuphulaphula, ufumana ubunzima obukhulu, engaboni ngaso sonke isizathu, ngokuboniweyo kwakhe, umthetho. Ngoko ke, lo mkhuba weentombi zomntu uphazanyiswa ngesizathu senkcaso ebalulekileyo kwiimeko ezingama-40 ngekhulu. Apho umntu ongasentla uya kuxabisa isicelo esifanelekileyo sokuphulaphula lakhe ibali, ngenxa yokuba uyadinwa yindalo yakhe yokuqala kwaye ufuna ukumxelela ngezinto ezimbi namhlanje.
Indoda iyayithanda xa umfazi emdumisa.
Yaye ingathembekanga ngokukodwa kwimizamo yakhe yokucela ukuxhasa. Indoda yokwenene ayayazi indlela yokuncoma ngokukhawuleza: kufuneka athathe le ngxelo enothando ngokubonakala kwayo, iimpawu zobuntu okanye izakhono ekuphekeni. Ukwahlukana ngaba abalandeli bobudlelwane obusondelene nabo obuphathekayo, obuneminyaka engama-bunye bobudlelwane obubusuku bodwa babesele benza uluhlu lwezitatimende ezenziwe ngokulungelelanisa nawuphi na umfazi. Indoda ethembekileyo ayithandi ukuxoka kumfazi wayo: akayi kumxelela ukuba ulahlekelwe isisindo, ukuba akunjalo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphawula ukuba kuye nangona hlobo lwakhe luhle kakhulu.
Ngokubanzi, imibuzo engapheliyo yabesifazane malunga nokubonakala okanye ukusabalaka kweentsilelo ekubonakaleni kwabo ayibheno kumadoda. Ngokungagqibekanga, ibhinqa ayithethileyo kwaye ngubani ofunwayo kuye, ngowona mhle kunabo bonke kwaye unesidima kakhulu. Yaye uyayithanda le mveliso ekhethiweyo yekhethiweyo. Kwaye ukuba ubeka ingqalelo kwiimpazamo ezinokwenzeka kumfanekiso wakhe, ngoko uya kuqala ukuqaphela iinkalo ezithile ezityhila ukufezeka kwakhe. Kwaye ngaloo mini, xa eqonda ukuba akayikucinga ukuba ibhinqa lakhe lihle, elingaqhelekanga, eliyingqayizivele, umnqweno wakhe uya kutshabalala. Kwaye ngokusalala kwalo mzuzwana obalulekileyo wokudibanisa ubudlelwane, ukuxothwa ngokupheleleyo kweemvakalelo kunokwenzeka.
Ibhinqa ibonakalisa indoda.
Indoda ithanda kakhulu xa imilinganiselo kunye nokuziphatha koxinzelelo lwakhe kugxininisa iimpawu zakhe ezintle kuluntu. Kumele ukuba uzive efunekayo kumhlobo wakhe, kungekhona kuphela ekhaya, apho bodwa, kodwa nakwinkampani apho angalahlekelwa khona isikhundla salo kwaye kuphela emehlweni kwintanda yakhe. Lo mzuzu ubaluleke kakhulu kunaliphi na ilungu lezesondo ezinamandla. Yaye ngenxa yokuba ibhinqa liyakwazi ukujamelana nomboniso wale nkcazelo efunwa, emva koko, kuxhomekeke kwiintsebenziswano zabo. Into leyo kukuba abantu banzima kakhulu kunabesifazane. Kwaye abayazi ukuba baziphilise ngokwabo. Okanye banako, kodwa banikezwa kubo ngeendleko zemigudu engaqinisekanga. Kodwa ibhinqa ngokubhekisele ngenyameko ingabangela ukuba umthandi wakhe unomuzwa wokuthi unjalo - omnye kwaye uyayithanda. Yaye le mvakalelo yamadoda ayiyonto imnandi - iyakulungele ukuhambisa iintaba ngemizuzwana embalwa yokuhlala kule ndawo.