Nangona kunjalo, musa ukukhawuleza ukuyeka into ongavumelaniyo nayo. Mhlawumbi unokufumana indawo entsha yokujonga kwinto enomdla kubasetyhini. Emva koko, ukuba ufunda ukuqonda kangcono iimvakalelo, iingcamango nokuziphatha kwabantu, ngenxa yokuqonda okunzulu, unokuthetha ngokulula kunye nabameli bobulili obuhlukile kwaye mhlawumbi uphumelele kakhulu kumadoda odibana nawo.
Indlela umntu eba ngayo, umlingiswa wakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe, kuxhomekeke kakhulu ekukhulisweni kwakhe kwamkela. Ngoku, ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi, inkwenkwe ilawulwa kwaye iholwa ngabasetyhini. Lo ngumama, ootitshala, ootitshala esikolweni, abahlala bebhekisela kubafazi besigamu somntu. Ukongezelela kootitshala esikolweni, inkwenkwe iyaqhagamshelana nabafundi eklasini. Khumbula iminyaka yakho yesikolo: Ngelo xesha wena kunye namanye amantombazana akhule phambi kofunda nabo esikolweni, baqondwa bhetele ngento eshiwo kwizifundo. Konke oku kwakungabonakaliyo ukuba unokwenzakalisa ukuzingca komntu.
Ukukhula ngokukhawuleza, le nkwenkwe iqala ukuvukela, kubandakanywa nabasetyhini. Kodwa ngelo xesha uyaqhubeka ebaphatha ngokuhlonipha, uthando, kwaye balwela iintlanganiso kunye neNhle Lady. Isimo sengqondo esichasene nabasetyhini kunye nokuhlukana kwendoda "Mina" kubonakaliswa kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo abadala abadala:
- Ukholelwa ekugqibeleni.
- Ungathanda ukutshata loo ntokazi eqondayo kwaye evakalelwa yinto engavamile.
- Uthanda ukudunyiswa kunye nokuthandwa. Akathandi ukugxeka, kodwa ulungele ukuliphulaphula kwidilesi yakhe.
- Unayo imaski ayigqoba ngaphandle kwendlu, kwaye inokungafani kunye nobuso bakhe bokwenene.
- Ngendlela ezininzi uqonda ukuphakama kwamanye amadoda phezu kwakhe kwaye udla ngokucinga ngawo.
- Uthanda ukuthetha ngaye kunye nokuphulaphula xa bethetha ngaye.
Inkqubo yomtshato ayiyinto ekhethekileyo kumntu, kodwa ininzi yabo icinga ngobomi bentsapho kunye nethemba elonwabileyo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba, emphefumlweni baya kukhetha umqeqeshi wakhe. Ekugqibeleni, indoda iya kufuna ukuba nezingane. Omnye uza kuba nalo ngaphambili, umntu uza kuba nalo kamva. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anelungelo lokuthandana. Nangona bethanda ukuhleka kwiinkomfa zethelevishini kunye namafilimu ngokuthandana, kodwa akakho umntu ongenalo ukufumana "isiqingatha sakhe" ukuze athole iinkwenkwezi zakhe ezulwini. Ngokuchasene neenkolelo ezidumileyo, amadoda athatheka ngokukhawuleza kunabesifazane. Basenokwenzeka ukuba baqhelane, qalisa ukuthetha nomfazi, oqhutywa ngumnqweno wokufumana uthando lwabo. Ukongezelela, amadoda amaninzi abafazi athambekele ekucingeni lowo abathandayo. Kodwa nabo kufuneka badlale indima ethandekayo othandweni, mhlawumbi banqobe izithintelo ezingaphezulu, kwaye oku kufuna amandla amaninzi, awamadoda atholakala ekutsaleni kweyona nto. Ngenxa yokuthandana nabo banengqiqo ebonakalayo yobunini, ngenxa yoko, xa le ntliziyo ibhekiswe kwiintombi okanye umfazi, umntu ulungele ukusebenzisa amandla amaninzi ukugcina intanda yakhe. Ngenxa yobume bokudala bamadoda, nabani na kubo, banako ukukholelwa kwimimangaliso.
Ngoko, masiqokelele:
- Amadoda amaninzi ane-fragile "I", awayekhuselayo, ayikhusele aze ahlale efihla.
- Amadoda ebunzulu bomphefumlo ahlala emele ulondolozo lwabesetyhini.
- Amadoda amaninzi, nangona iimaski ezinzima abazigqokayo, zithandana kakhulu.
Ewe, umntu uhlala elula. Ngoko ke, ezi ziphumo zithetha kuphela zeziganeko eziqhelekileyo zesintu. Nangona kunjalo, kulungile ukukhumbula malunga neso sixhobo seengqondo. Zama ukuqwalasela indlela ethile yokuziphatha komntu onomdla kuyo ukuze uqonde ukuba yiyiphi into ekhethekileyo kunye neyoqhelekileyo yobuntu obunobuntu abonakalisayo. Indlela enzulu yokuziqonda ngayo ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuzisa iziqhamo zayo ezizityebi. Ukuba ukhetha kwangaphambili ukuba ukhangele ulwalamano nobuntu bakhe, uya kuziva indlela umphefumlo wakhe uqhubeka ngayo.