Ngelishwa, uthando alukho isiqinisekiso sokuba abantu baya kuba kunye ngonaphakade. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abanothando kufuneka bahlukane. Kutheni le nto yenzeka kwaye yintoni eyenza ukhetho olunzima kubo bobabini nababhinqa?
Iimimiselo ezichasiweyo
Kwiingxelo zenkwenkwezi iinkosana zisoloko zitshata amahlwempu aseCinderellas kwaye zihlala zivuya ngokuzayo. Kodwa ebomini yonke into iyakwenzeka ngokungafaniyo. Abantu abaneendawo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo banokuba nzima ngokwenene. Inyaniso kukuba ulwalamano alukwazi ukwakhelwa ngothando kuphela. Abantu kufuneka babe neenjongo eziqhelekileyo, imbono kwimeko kunye njalo njalo. Ekugqibeleni, abantu kufuneka bazi ukuba bathethe ntoni. Kodwa xa umntu kunye nentombazana bekhulile kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zoluntu, baneengcamango ezilungileyo kakhulu, ubunzima, njalo njalo, baya kuziva ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba babe kunye. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane obunjalo bukhula bube yizinto ezihlaselayo, ukutshutshiswa komnye nomnye. Ngelo xesha abantu baqhubeka beziva uthando, kodwa kunjalo, akukho nto inokuyenza. Nangona kunjalo, oku akumangalisi, kuba uqobo lwethu luhlala lusekwe phantsi kwefuthe kuluntu esilula ngalo. Ngako oko, ukuba sibeka kwindawo ehluke ngokupheleleyo, ngokuqinisekileyo okanye ngokungazi kakuhle umntu uyaqala ukumelana nento ejikelezileyo. Ngoko kuvela ukuba iCinderellas iyakuthanda iinkosana, kodwa oko akusoloko ikwazi ukumelana nehlabathi elizukileyo labakhethiweyo, apho amantombazana alula ayenanto.
Ukungqinelani kwabalinganiswa
Kukho imeko xa abathandi behlukana, kuba bahlala behlambalaza befunga. Isizathu salokhu asifani nabalinganiswa. Ngaphezu koko, kulapha malunga nxamnye neentlobo ezichaseneyo, oko kukuthi, ezifanayo. Ngokomzekelo, bobabini indoda kunye nelo bhinqa ziinkokeli ngendalo yazo. Zisetyenziswa ukuhlala zilawula ubudlelwane. Kwaye kubonakala ukuba omnye wabo uya kufuneka enze into ethile. Ngokwemvelo, wonke umntu ufuna umntu wesibini ukuba enze izivumelwano. UVitoga, phakathi kwamathandabuyo rhoqo uqala ukugqabana nokuxabana kwaye akukho mntu ufuna ukunikezela. Yingakho bahlukana. Ngaloo ndlela abantu abanjalo banokuthandana bonke ubomi, apha kuphela ukuba babe kunye nabo akunakwenzeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abambini abanjalo bazama ukuhlangana ngamaxesha ambalwa, kodwa emva nje kokuxhamla ukuxoxisana, ukuxabana kwakhona kuyaqala. Inyani kukuba abafazi kunye namantombazana abanalo ukunyamezela ngokwaneleyo nokuthotyelwa. Akunakulungiseleli, ngakumbi abantu abasondeleyo. Kubalulekile ukuba abantu abanjalo badibene kunye neqabane elithembekileyo elingaze liyiqwalasele inkani.
Ukwabelana ngoluntu
Abantu abaninzi bacinzezelwa ngombono woluntu. Izibini zihlala ziqhekeka ngenxa yokuba abantu abajikelezileyo baxubusha ubudlelwane babo kwaye bathethe ngokungakhethi. Kodwa unako ukuba xa uthanda, awuyi kuthobela uluvo loluntu. Kodwa yonke into ayilula kakhulu njengoko kubonakala. Ngokomzekelo, kwiintsapho zonqulo kakhulu, abayi kuze bamkele umntu onqulo olunye okanye ongakholelwa kuThixo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba intombazana okanye intombi ayithandi umkhethiweyo wakhe. Uluntu olunjalo luya kuqhubeka lubonakalisa ukuphikisana okubukhali kumntu. Kulo mzekelo, akukho mntu ucinga ngeemvakalelo zabantu abaselula.Wonke umntu ukholelwa ukuba benza into efanelekileyo kwaye ukhusela ingqondo encinane ebubini. Nangona, ngokwenene, isibini esithandanayo sithwale iisongelo ze-iobida imihla ngemihla, ziphulaphule iingxoxo ezingathandekiyo kwiindlela zabo, izinsongelo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva banokuthi bahlukane ngenxa yokuba i-psyche ayigcineli uxinzelelo olunjalo. Lucky kulabo abanokuya kwenye indawo, kude nabo bonke abazama ukuphulaphula ubomi babo, bachaneke ngeenjongo ezilungileyo. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunezibini ezinjalo abanalo ithuba lokushiya idolophu yabo okanye idolophana kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uxinzelelo loluntu luba lula kwaye lufanele luhlakazeke ukuze singabi nongcolileyo. Ngelishwa, kukho iimeko xa izibini ezinjalo zingenakuhlala ngaphandle komnye, kodwa abafuni ukuhlala ngcinezelo olunjalo. Kule meko, izibini zidla ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuzibulala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuphelisa uxinzelelo lobomi kwaye ungalokothi uhlukane.
Andifuni ukuphazamisa ubomi
Kukwahlukana kwabantu kunokushenxisa ubuqaqawuli bokuqala. Kule meko, umntu uqonda nje ukuba akakwazi ukunika owamthandayo oko akufanelekelayo. Izizathu ziyakwazi ukuhluka: kubalinganiswa abafani, iinjongo ezahlukeneyo njalonjalo. Umzekelo, umfana ubona ukuba intombazana yakhe ethandekayo inentlalontle, inomdla kunye neyothando. Ukholelwa kwiimbali zamagama kwaye ufuna umntu ozithandayo ukudala le ngxelo kuye. Unomdla omkhulu kunye neminqweno. Uhlala efuna ukunxibelelana, eze kunye nento entsha, ukuhamba kunye nokunye, kwaye umfana ungumntu ongenalucalulo ozama ngokwenene ukwenza oko umfazi wakhe akufunayo, kodwa yonke into inikwe kuye ngobunzima obunzima kwaye uyaqonda ukuba akanakuze abe umntu onjalo njengoko ufuna. Ngethuba elithile uzama ngokunyanisekileyo ukulungisa yonke into, kodwa ke uyaqala ukuqonda ukuba loo mntu ubhekene nxamnye naye. Nangona engabonakali oku, vseravno uyayiqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye uyaqonda ukuba kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Kwiimeko ezinje, iinqanaba lesibini alisoloko liqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba kutheni kwenzeka. Bathukuthelele abo bathandekayo, bavele banyamalala ebomini babo, bawagxeka ngokuba nobuqili, ubuwula, njalonjalo. Ukuqonda imeko kufika ngexesha. Kule meko, umntu onothando wenza kakuhle. Uya kumbingelelo, ekholelwa ukuba ukhetho olukhethekileyo luya kuhlupheka ngoku kwaye luvumele olo thando luye kumfumana umntu onokumnika lona. Kakade, akusiyo wonke umntu onwabileyo nalaba bahloniphekileyo. Abanye bafika kwisigqibo sokuba kungcono ukuba kunye nabathandekayo bakho ukuba bamkele, bamkele ngaphandle kokuhlala ngaphandle kwalo. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu bayaqaphela ukuba ukuhlukana kwababonelele abo bafezekileyo. Mhlawumbi, esi sizathu esibuhlungu kunabo bonke abantu abanothando. Enyanisweni, kulo mzekelo yonke into ingagqitywa, kodwa, ngelishwa, umntu wesibini akaqhelanga ukuba uyaziphi na nini. Ufuna yena ngokwakhe, uya kuba nomnqweno wokwahlukana kwaye akaqondi ukuba nguye owayeyichitha ubomi bakhe kunye nolonwabo lwakhe. Kwaye xa kufikelele ekuqapheliseni, kusondele ukutshintsha nantoni na.