Ngaba indoda idinga umfazi wekhaya?

Kukho into enjengokuthi "ngumfazi wendlu". Ewe, oku akusiyo isigama, kodwa abantu abaninzi banokuthi yilohlobo oluthile lwabafazi. Amanye amantombazana abhekisela kule ngcamango, kwaye zibuze, kodwa ngaba indoda idinga umfazi "wasekhaya"?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, umbuzo othi "ngabafazi basekhaya" kuyadingeka ukuba amadoda afanelekileyo, kuba abafazi bafuna ukuqonda ukuba kulungile ukutshintsha. Ngoko, okokuqala, makhe sibone ukuba ngubani na umfazi "ekhaya" kwaye kutheni. Ewe, okokuqala, akukho mntu wayenokubiza loo ntokazi ibhinqa, i-tigress, i-vamp. Umfazi onjalo akazi ukuba njani kwaye akafuni ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Kwaye, akukho namnye uthi loo ntombazana ayayazi indlela yokuzinyamekela yona, ibe yintombi kunye nenhle. Umntu onobuhlobo bakhe bhinqa uhlala ezama ukwenza ubomi buhle kwaye bukhululekile. Unenkxalabo malunga naloo nto uhlala esonwabile. Kwaye oku kubonakala kuyo yonke into. Indoda yakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo, idla ukutya okuhlwayileyo, ihamba ngempahla ecocekileyo kunye ne-ironed kwaye inokuqiniseka ukuba ihlala ilinde endlwini ecocekileyo neqaqambileyo. Xa bethetha ngala mabhinqa, intombazana e-slippers kunye nokugqoka iingubo kaninzi kunokuba kungenjalo, apho ivele iphefumle intuthuzelo kunye nentuthuzelo. Kodwa ngaba umntu ufuna loo mfazi? Emva koko, kwaziwa ukuba abantu bathanda kubazingeli, ukufuna iinqaba ezinokuthenjelwa, ukulungisa yonke into ngokuzimela kunye nayo yonke indlela ukufezekisa intliziyo ka-ukumkanikazi. Indoda ayifumelani nentombazana enjalo ixesha elide. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba akazi ukuba ufanelekile. Intombazana enjalo "ekhayeni" iyazi ukubona okulungileyo kubantu abathanda kuye, kwaye ubaxolele iimpazamo ezininzi. Ngokungafaniyo "nezigulane" ezigqabileyo kwaye zigijimayo malunga nokuba ngaphandle kwesizathu, intombazana "yasekhaya" iya kuzama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni le nto yenze loo nto, yathetha naye, thola ingcamango okanye yenza into efanelekileyo emehlweni abo. Kodwa, ngaba uvavanyo olunjalo lwezenzo eziyimfuneko kumntu?

Ukongezelela, le ntombazana inokuhlala isinceda indoda ixazulule iingxaki. Abayidingi naliphi na isizathu esikhethekileyo kule nto. Bathanda kwaye bakholelwe ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhlala uncedisa kwaye unceda abo bathandekayo kuwe. Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, amadoda aqala ukuthatha le ndlela yokuziphatha, kwaye, ngoko kuthetha, "uhlale entanyeni yakho." Yingakho, xa ugqiba ukuba ungatshintsha okanye ukuba ufuna ukuhlala njengoko kunjalo, umfazi kufuneka aqonde kakuhle ukuba yintoni indoda yakhe. Okanye, luhlobo luni lendoda ayifunayo. Emva koko, enyanisweni, kukho ezininzi iintlobo zobuninzi bamantombazana, kukho ezininzi iintlobo zamadoda. Kukho abantu abahlala befuna ukufezekisa into kwaye baqinisekise ukuba ihlabathi liphela kwaye lifanelekile. Loo mntu akayi kuba nomdla kwintombazana enomusa nokuqonda. Ufuna ubomi ukuze uhlale ezele iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo neemvakalelo. Ibhinqa elikhathalela uxolo kunye nentuthuzelo, ayikwazi ukunika umfana ubuninzi beemvakalelo azifunayo. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuxabisa kwaye ahloniphe loo mfazi, kwaye uhlale ebuyela ekhaya, kodwa uya kukhangela iimvakalelo kwicala, kunye nalabo bafazi abangayi kumnceda, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kubangela iingxaki, bafune ukuba bafune. Ngomfazi onjalo, umntu akaze azi into enokuyilindela kumzuzu olandelayo. Oku kukuqhuba. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukhankanywa ngabafana abanjalo, akufanele ube nomusa kwaye ulula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uhlale uhlaziya ama-hysteric kwaye ufumane ubudlelwane nawo. Ngomntu nje, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba akayi kukwazi ukusebenzisa ububele bakho, kwaye uyazi kakuhle intlawulo yakho, unayo imfihlelo kwaye ungeke ufikeleleke, kwaye ukuba uyabuyisela, uya kukuthatha ngokukhawuleza, ngoko uya kulahleka.

Kwakhona, kukho uluhlu lwabafana abathi, ngenxa yeengxube zabo, bazama ukufumana konke okusemgangathweni ukubonisa ubungqongileyo abafanelekile into ethile. Enyanisweni, indoda enjalo idinga umfazi onothando nonomnene oya kumnceda ukulahla iingxaki, uya kuxhasa, kwaye, yakhe, inceba, iyakhusela. Abantu abanjalo banomntu obuthakathaka kwaye badinga umva onamandla. Kodwa, ngenxa yeengxube zabo, bahlaziya abafazi abanjalo baze bafikeleleke. Umfana onjalo kufuneka aqonde ukuba uyintombazana abahlobo bayo bayayixabisa. Nangona, kukufanelekile ukucinga malunga nokuba ufuna umntu ongenakuzikhethela ebomini aze abukele uluvo loluntu kuyo yonke into. Kodwa, ukuba usasafuna ukuba nalo mfana, ungabonakali esidlangalaleni ukuba uyabaxabisa njani kwaye ukulungele ukwenza konke. Kufuneka ungenakulinganiswa kwaye uhlale uyazi ixabiso. Kodwa, ngexesha elifanayo, yedwa, kufuneka ube ngowona wesifazane oza kuhlala ekwazi ukuxhasa nokunceda, kodwa, ngelo xesha, akufanele ulungise iingxaki kuye. Amadoda anjalo akakwazi ukuvulwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye avumele konke. Kuzo kunye neyona ndlela eyaziwayo kakhulu ye "kroti kunye nokunamathela" isebenze kakuhle. Ukuba uyakwazi ukubona loo nto kwibudlelwane naye, ongenakukwazi ukuya kuyo, unokuvuya naye.

Kodwa, kukho enye inxalenye yamadoda. Bayazintlukazi zendlukazi abathanda ukuzola ekhaya labo, kwi "ichweba" labo. Kunzima kakhulu kwabasetyhini abaphelisa iimvakalelo kunye nabani na owaziyo ukuba balindele ntoni kumzuzwana olandelayo. Laba bafana bafuna nje "amakhaya" asekhaya. Baya kuxabisa ububele nokuqonda, kunye nentuthuzelo oya kubadala yona. Amadoda anjalo ahlala ehlekisa, azama ukulungisa izinto ngokuzondayo aze azithiyile xa abafazi beqala ukufumana ubudlelwane phakathi kwamathoni aphezulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazi ukuba uhlale ulungele ukuthanda nokunceda umntu wakho, ngoko loo nto iya kuba yinto ekhethekileyo. La madoda ayinyanisekile kwaye athembele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angaqali ukusebenzisa. Bayixabisa ngokwenene into oyenzela yona, kwaye ungayithathi nto. La madoda aya kuba ngamadoda afanelekileyo kubantu abanokwenza induduzo kunye noxakeke, kunye nokukhusela umphefumlo, intliziyo kunye neentliziyo zomntu osithandayo kwiinkxalabo, amava kunye neengxabano.