Izihlobo zicela kwi-chorus: "Ngaba sele ulungiselele umntwana kwi-kindergarten? Ixesha sele likhona! Ufuna ukuthetha kunye nokuphuhlisa! ". AmaMommy of kids-to-one kids ayingxenyana kunye nabanye babelana ngeziphumo ze "castings" zezilwanyana ezijikelezayo. Abazalwana abadala, abangenabo "kuqala", bachaze ngokucacileyo indlela yokucaphukisa umntwana ("Nangona, uyazi, iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala asizange siphume kwi-snot"), njani ukumfundisa ukuba alale kwishedyuli yesibini ("Uyazi, ubuhle bam" Akafuni ukulala, ngoko ke ulala phantsi emini "). Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu - indlela yokuphila kwinto "yokunika" umntwana esikhungweni samabantwana ("Uyakhathazeka, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ndigubungela umhlophe, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza? .."). Kwaye wena ngokwakho, ngokuziphatha nangokwenene ukulungiselela isiganeko sokwenza izinto, uhlale uzibamba: "Mhlawumbi asiyi kuhamba ...?". Ngaba iingenelo zabantwana abangabikhoyo?
Ukugcinwa kwempahla
Akungabazeki ukuba i-kindergarten yinto ebalulekileyo yoluntu, isipho kubazali banamhlanje kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Kodwa ukuba ujike kwiingcamango zangaphambili phantsi kwamaziko anjalo, kuyacaca: i-kindergarten uhlobo "lokugcina indawo" apho unako "ukulupha" umntwana xa ungenayo umntu onokumnakekela ekhaya. Kwakungelona nto ukuba igadi kunye namanwe enkantshi baqala ukubonakala kuyo yonke indawo emva koKhuphelo luka-Oktobha, xa oomama nogogo bebandakanyeka ekwakheni "ikamva eliqaqambileyo". Baye baphoqeleka ukuba banike umntwana kwi-kindergarten.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhlala e-kindergarten kunzima ukuthelekisa kunye nemeko "yomfanekiso, ibhaskiti kunye nekhadibhodi" kwimithwalo - kukhululekile kakhulu, kukho abahlobo, iiklasi kunye nokuhamba ... Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ngaphesheya kwezilwanyana eziqhelekileyo nezigulana kunye noxinzelelo lwezilungo, ukuxabana komntwana kunye "Abalingane" okanye umfundisi, ubunzima beentsapho kunye nezinye izizathu, ngenxa yokuba yinkwenkwe ethile ayinakuya kwirejista. Ngaba kuya kuphazamisa uphuhliso lwakhe?
Umzabalazo woluntu
"Kutheni ngobudlelwane kunye noontanga?" - Abazali abanothando bayonwabile. Sifundiswa ukususela ebuntwaneni ukuba kuphela kwintsimi ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukufumana "opheleleyo" amava oqhagamshelwano. Siza kuwuqonda, ngaba kunjalo? Okokuqala, kwi-kindergarten umntwana akakhethi ukuba ngubani ozakuthetha naye, kwaye kunye naye-hayi, ngokuba uchitha lonke ixesha ehlanganisiwe. Okwesibini, amaqela akhiwa ngokususela kwiminyaka yobudala. Ngaba sithetha kuphela noontanga? Okwesithathu, unxibelelwano kumntwana luyimfuneko - kodwa kubungakanani, njengokwenene? Hayi, kwinkqubo yesantya yabantwana abaninzi oku kuvavanyo olubi. Emva kwakho konke, nangomhla omdala osebenzayo, kwinqanaba elinobubele lidala ukukhathala. Umsindo, ukungakwazi ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi nokuphumla ekunxibelelaneni, ukuguqula umsebenzi - konke oku kunokunciphisa impilo yentsana enesistim se-nervous vulnerable.
Abaxhasi bee-kindergarten bakholelwa ukuba apha umntwana uyanyanzelekile ukuba athole ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye noontanga, ukuba bazibandakanye kwiqela. Kwaye igama eliphambili "linyanzeliswe." Akukho ndawo eya kuyo! Kodwa ngaba uyayifuna ngoku ngqo umntwana wakho ngoku? Emva koko, abantwana bahluke ngokupheleleyo! Omnye osele kwiminyaka engama-4 ulungele ukukhokela ama-comrades, nakwi-campaign arctic. Yaye enye enye kuphela ngowesi-6 neye-7 iya kubonisa umnqweno wokunxibelelana nabantwana, kwaye iphosakele ngomoya onjalo kumntwana onjalo-kuphela ukumlimaza.
Ukulungiswa: kunye nokuchasene
"Yintoni esifanele ifundise i-kindergarten, ngoko iqeqesho!" - bathi "abazali bendabuko". Kwaye ke, baya kulungile. Kwi-kindergarten yokufunda evela kumntwana kufuna ukugcinwa ngokuqinileyo kwemihla ngemihla, ukuthobela imiyalelo yabantu abadala. Kodwa ... ngaba kuyimfuneko ukunika umntwana engadini kule nto? Njengomthetho, phantsi koqeqesho sithetha "ukunqoba" umntwana ngokwabo, iiminqweno zakhe, kunye nezidingo zenyama. Awufuni ipuni? Maye "asinako"! Awufuni ukufunda, ngaba ufuna ukuqhuba? Yiyo yonke into yokuhamba, kwaye uhamba. Awufuni ukulala? Uxoka, ube nomonde. Ingqalelo, umbuzo: ngaba luncedo kwimpilo yomntwana enjalo kwinkqubo ye "perebaryvaniya ngokwayo" (yidla xa umzimba ungakulungeli ukutya, hlala uhleli xa ufuna ukuqhuba), ungakhankanyi ukuziphatha kakuhle? Kwaye negunya elidumileyo lootitshala? Ngaba kunengqondo ukuphikisana ngokuthi "Ndilungile, kuba ndikhulile!"? Mhlawumbi kuchanekile ukuphuhlisa kwindlela nje yokumhlonela abanye - kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukungenisekanga ngokungenakunqanda, ngokungqamene nokwesaba isigwebo? .. Ukuba ukhangele "kwingcambu," ukuqeqeshwa kwemikhosi emininzi ye-Soviet kindergartens kwakunengcamango jikelele yokukhusela "iingcambu" zoluntu ngubani olungele ukuhlaziswa kwaye awazi ukuba unokuzinyamekela njani, kwaye ngokungaqinisekiyo-nangengqiqo! - thobela igunya. Abantu abanjalo banokulungelelanisa uluntu. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ngoku? Mhlawumbi kungcono ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahleleke kwaye anembopheleleko yezenzo zakhe? Futhi ngaba abazali, ngomzekelo wabo, bafundisa umntwana ukuba asuse amathoyizi, agubungele itafile, afake umbhede?
Ngenzuzo yekhaya
Ngoko ke, ukuba ufike kwisigqibo sokuba ukuya enkulisa - isiganeko esingaye, qiniseka ukuba ucinge ngendlela yokwenza umntwana wakho ahlalisane.
1. Unxibelelwano
Abazali abaninzi bayethusa ngethuba lohambo oluzayo lwesikolo - bathetha, njani umntwana wethu ongenamava oqhagamshelwano? Kodwa ukungabikho kweso sifana ebomini komntwana akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uvalelwe ekhaya kuphela kunye nonina okanye ugogo. Hamba ngohambo olugqithiseleyo ukuya apho abantwana abaninzi, bamema iindwendwe, batyelele iibonda kunye namacandelo - 1-2 iiyure zokunxibelelana ngosuku ngokwaneleyo ukwenza umntwana wakho abe ilungu elipheleleyo loluntu lwabantwana.
2. Uphuhliso lwengqondo
Ukufikelela kwisikolo esithile (esikolweni) iimfuno zengqondo zengane zinokukwazi ukwanelisa amalungu omntwana wengane. Akuyimfuneko ukuhlwaya iinqanawa kwideskiti encinci - kungcono nakakhulu ukuba ufumana ulwazi kunye nezakhono kwimidlalo nasekunxibelelaneni. Umzekelo, xa upheka isidlo sakusihlwa - kunzima ukubala nge-crumb of carrots kunye namazambane kwaye uchaze uhlobo luni lweentyatyambo kunye nemilo? Ukuba ufuna into "ekhethekileyo", enkonzweni yakho ininzi yokuphuhlisa imisebenzi yabantwana ukusuka kwizikhwama ukuya esikolweni. Apha, kunye noonxibelelwano kunye noontanga nabadala, kunye neengqondo, nophuhliso lokudala. Ukuba isixeko sakho asinabantwana bokuphuhlisa amaziko, akunandaba! Mhlawumbi uya kubambisana nabomama ababini okanye abathathu be-school-classers kunye nezihlandlo ezimbalwa ngeveki bangalungiselela iintsuku zophuhliso ekhaya. Ngokuqinisekileyo omnye wenu uyazi ukudlala ipiyano aze ahlabelele iingoma zabantwana, enye iya kubonisa indlela yokubala iintonga kunye namaapulo, kunye nomkhulu okanye umninawa unesipho kumdlalo othakazelisayo ukuxelela malunga ne-geography okanye i-biology, ekufundiseni ukuba ufunde okanye udwebe ... Nangona le ngcamango "yokufundisa" Unokuyonwabela nje kuphela ngabahlobo bakho, kodwa nakwabafundi bekholeji yokuqeqesha ootitshala bekhaya. Uya kubona, ngokwezemali ayiyi kuphazamiseka nantoni!
3. Ukuzithemba nokuzithemba
Ukuze ukhule ngokwengqondo kakuhle, umntwana wakho kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyakwazi. Inyaniso yokuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabantu abadala kunokumthintela ukuba enze uvavanyo lokuzimelela ngokwaneleyo - kodwa kuphela ukuba ukudibanisa lwakhiwe kwimimiselo "yezithixo zentsapho", i-hyperopeak, okanye uxinzelelo kunye nokulawula (ukuba umntwana usenathi thina-ah-ah-ak ufundise u-e-ka-ah-ah-ak masikhulise!). Myeka umntwana abe ngumntwana nje! Makhe enze into ayifunayo, makhe akhule, ngokwexesha lakhe. Ewe, imfundo yasekhaya yentsana ibonakala nzima kunokuba iqhelekileyo "idlulile-yamkelwe" kwi-kindergarten. Sifanele sibheke ulwazi oluninzi malunga nokuphuhliswa kwangaphambili, kuthatha uxanduva lomntwana, ekugqibeleni - silondoloze ilungelo lethu ukuba lingabi njengawo wonke umntu ... Kodwa lo ngumsebenzi onombulelo - iinzame zakho ziza kuba neziqhamo, kwaye uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uphuhliso umntwana usezandleni zakho. Enyanisweni, kuba baninzi bethu, abazali abakhulele kwiSoviet Union, ingcamango yokuba ukutyelela i-kindergarten ayikho imbopheleleko, kubonakala kungenasiphelo kwaye nokuba yintlango. Ewe, kukho i-kindergartens ezintle ezineetalente kunye nootitshala abanomdla. Kukho abantwana abathanda ukuya kwi-kindergarten kwaye bayavuya ukuchitha ixesha apho. Emva kwakho konke, kukho abazali abangenayo enye into ekhethekileyo kodwa ukunika umntwana kwi-kindergarten ... Kodwa ukuba unayo le khetho, hamba okanye hayi, kufuneka uyenze ngokuqonda, ulinganise yonke into " kwaye "ngokumelene", ukuphulaphula intliziyo yakho kunye nosana. Akunjalo nje ngokuba ufuna ukunika umntwana inkulisa.
Kuthiwani ngokuphuhliswa?
Ingxabano ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni i-kindergartens imfundo enyanzelekileyo, ukufumaneka kwezifundo ezizodwa kunye njalo njalo. Kodwa ukuba ubala, kuvela ukuba ngokwenene, umntwana uchitha iiyure eziyi-1 ngosuku ngosuku "kwizifundo" ebantwaneni - ngokuqhelekileyo ukudweba, ukufunda, umculo, ingqiqo / imathematika nolwimi lwangaphandle. Yaye kwaye izizathu zokunikwa kwezoqoqosho zindleko zakho kwezi klasi? Kwinqanaba labafundi aba-15-25, umgcini-nkathalo akanalo ixesha, ithuba, okanye ngokufuthi umnqweno okhethekileyo wokulungelelanisa ikharityhulam ngamnye umntwana.
Ngoko kuvela ukuba kunomdla kwaye kuyinzuzo ukufunda kwiprogram "ephakamileyo" yodwa ngumntwana oya kuba "ngumgangatho". Uninzi olunjalo, kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho "uvela kwincinci"? Kodwa i-crumb-wunderkind, owaziyo ukufunda nokubhala kwiminyaka emihlanu, okanye umntwana-kopushe, ofuna ukuqokelela iingcamango zakhe ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba enze into ethile, le "shedyuli" ayifanelekanga. Ngoko cinga ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuba unika umntwana - kunye ne-nursergart ngamanye amaxesha unelungelo kwaye ulinde.