Iibhondi ezinamandla
Ukufikelela kwiinyanga ezi-6-8, iintsana ziphendulela ngokukhawuleza xa zahlukana nomama wazo. Kodwa kufuphi nomnyaka umntwana engalindelekanga kubazali bangaqala ukukhusela ngokukrakra kumama wam: ukukhala ngokukhawuleza kunye nokukrazula "ukugijima" ngokulandelayo. Abanye oomama banomdla kakhulu kwiimbonakalo zothando olunjengomntwana kwaye kunzima ukushiya umntwana, uziva uzisola kwaye uphantse ukhale. Kodwa iimpendulo ezinjalo zenza ngcono imeko. Njengomphumo wokuhlukana kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu, ukunqamana komntwana kumama kunomngcipheko wokungena kwifom. Imeko xa umntwana engamvumeli unina aye kwindlu yangasese okanye kwigumbi elilandelayo, umele uqaphele kwaye uqhagamshelane ne-neurologist. Nangona kunjalo, amabali anjalo awananto. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana basabela ngokuzinzileyo xa umama uhlamba izitya ekhitshini, kwaye umntwana uhlezi kwibala lezemfundo, kodwa bayavuya xa bebona ukuba abazali baqala ukulungela ukusebenza okanye kwivenkile. Inyaniso kukuba abantwana abancinci abasazi ukuba umama akayi kuhamba ngonaphakade, kodwa ngexesha elithile. Abantwana bacinga kuphela inyathelo eliphambili. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuba ukwahlukana akuyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uthuthuzele umntwana kunye namazwi oya kubuya ngawo. Mhlawumbi, i-crumb ayiqondi kakuhle intsingiselo yento eyathethiweyo, kodwa intetho ezolile, inothando iya kubangela ukuthembela kuye, inkolelo yokuba unina akayi kutshabalalisa kwaye uza kuphinda abuyele. Kwakhona kunceda ukufihla nokufuna umntwana: zifihla emva komnyango, uze ukhangele ngokuhleka, uphinde uzifihle - uphinde ukhuphe ngaphandle kwentloko yakho. Ngokufanayo, ungadlala nedoli, uzifihla ngaphantsi komlambo ngala mazwi: "Uphi idoli? Wayephi na? Mhlawumbi uye evenkile "- uze uyiphathe ngaphandle, uthi:" Nantsi idodoli! U fikile! Ndabuya esitolo! "Imizekelo enjengomzekelo iya kubonisa ukuba ukunyamalala kwedonop, unina uhlala ixesha elifutshane kwaye uhlala ephela ngokubuya.
Umhlobo othakazelisayo
Ngamanye amaxesha ukutshatyalaliswa kwengcinezelo komntwana kungabangelwa utshintsho olubukhali kuloo meko. Ngokomzekelo, xa ushukunyayo, yintoni eyenza umntwana onobubele angakwazi ukunyamezeleka. Kule meko, kufuneka ulinde iintsuku ezimbalwa ade umntwana asetyenziswe, kunye nexesha elithile ukuba angashiyi i-crumb ngaphandle komama. Ukutshintshela kwi-kindergarten okanye ukubonakala komntwana, xa umama efuna ukuya emsebenzini, kaninzi uhamba noxinzelelo lwengqondo. Unokunciphisa uxinzelelo ngokulungiselela iziganeko ezitsha kwangaphambili. Ukuba umama uya kunika umntwana kwi-kindergarten, kuyakufanelekile ukutshixela kwangaphambili oko kuza kwenzeka kuye, ngubani na oya kuhlala naye, kubalulekile ukuxelela umntwana ukuba unina uya kubuyela kuye ngokuhlwa. Kukulungele ukuqheleka kancane kancane, okukhokelela iqela kuqala ngeyure kwaye udlala nayo, ukwandisa ngokukhawuleza ixesha elide. Emva kokuba umntwana esetyenziswe, unokuzama ukumshiya yedwa kunye nabantwana kwisigamu seyure. Ukuba i-crumb ayizalisi ngezinyembezi, kodwa, "ukulibala", ngokudlala ngokuthula, ngoko, ukulungelelaniswa kuphumelele. Imeko efanayo kunye nomntwana: ungashiyi umntwana wakho kunye nomfo ngokukhawuleza, makumfundele umntwana. Iintsuku zokuqala akufanele zibekho, kuyacetyiswa ukuba zichithe kunye nomntwana kunye notitshala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umama uya kubona ukuba umhlengikazi ulungile kangakanani, nokuba uyakwazi ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana, kwaye kwenye - yakha umoya wokuthembela xa umntwana eqala ukuqonda ukuba umntakwabo osondeleyo, "umntu okhuselekileyo" kwaye uya kuhlala ethule naye. Nangona kunjalo, apha, ngokwenene, isimo sengqondo somama sibalulekile. Abantwana baxhalabele ukuxhalaba nokungaqiniseki, okubenza bangakhathazeki. Ngako oko, umama ngokwakhe ufuna ukuthembela kumntu lowo ubalekele ukukunceda.
Ukushiya, shiya ...
Iintsana ezisenkulumeni ziqonda ukuba imithi ethile ivelisa iimpendulo ezithile. Kakade abantwana abaneminyaka eli-1 ubudala bayazi ngokucacileyo ukuba ukukhala kunokunyanzelisa abantu abadala ukuba bakhangele ingqalelo baze bafeze oko bafuna. Kwaye abantwana abanama-1,5-, abaneminyaka emi-2 ubudala banokuzama ukuphatha izihlobo zabo, bethetha ukukhala okanye ukukhala. Ukuba umntwana ujwayele ukuba kunoma yiyiphi inzala yakhe umama uhamba ngokukhawuleza, ukuphonsa izinto ezibalulekileyo, uya kusebenzisa le ndlela njengoko kuyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuhlangabezana nabantwana abagijimela phantsi, bebetha iinyawo kunye neentonga, befuna imvume yabazali babo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akwazi ukulindela, kungekhona ukuba aqhubele phambili kwiifowuni aze anganeliseki. Kufuneka uhambe ngokuqinisekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe, qiniseka ukuba ulumkise umntwana ukuba "ngemizuzu eyi-10, umama uya kushiya kwaye uza kuphinda abuyele," ukumbumbisa imva ngokukhawuleza, ukuba awanga. Ukuhamba ngesicatshulwa-simbi. Ngokungalindelekanga ukufumanisa ukunyamalala, inkunzi iyakwazi ukuvuyela ihlaya, inqumle ukuba yashiywa ngokufanelekileyo. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha umntwana, unokumnika ithoyizi elithambileyo, umkhonto okanye uboya bezinwele eziza kubandakanya umfanekiso womama, "xhuma" ngentambo engabonakaliyo nomntwana. Kwaye kufuneka umdlalele umdlalo omnandi okanye isifundo esinomdla. Xa inkunzi ixakekile, ayikho ixesha lokucamngca, iindidi zinyuka zingaboni.
Ndiphosile
Amava malunga nokuhlukana nomama asemvelo. Kodwa ukuba umntwana nangemva kweminyaka eyi-1.5 engasishiyi umama emva komngcipheko, kuyafaneleka ukucinga. Umntwana akanakho ukunakekelwa okwaneleyo. Oku kwenzeka xa umama exakeke kakhulu emsebenzini kunye nobomi aze asebenzise ixesha elincinci. Kwixesha elixakekileyo, ixesha lokuthintana kufuneka lifumaneke. Nangona ukufundwa kwebhanki kwincwadi ebusuku kungatshintshisa kakhulu imeko ukuba ibe ngcono.