Wonke umntu unemikhwa emibi kwaye wonke umntu unemikhwa eyahlukileyo. Kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazi indlela yokulahla imikhwa emibi. Emva koko, banqanda abantu ukuba baphile, bahlakulele, kwaye baninzi. Imikhwa emibi yahlula kwiindidi ezininzi. Kukho imikhwa emibi embi, bazisa izinto ezininzi eziphazamisayo kubathwali babo, ngamanye amaxesha, kwimiphumo yabo, abantu abajikelezileyo bangabandezeleka. Le miba ingaba nemikhwa ehambelana nokulutha iziyobisi, ukudakwa, ukunyaniseka, njl njl.
Ziziphi iimpawu ezimbi?
Umkhwa omubi, le yinto esenza ngayo ngokuphindaphinda amaninzi, nokuba siyayithanda okanye ayithandi. Ekuqaleni kungumsebenzi, ngoko, ukhula ube ngumkhwa. Inokuchaphazela kakubi zombini ojikelezayo, kwaye umnini ngokwakhe, umphathi walo mkhuba, unokuchaphazela impilo yakhe. Kodwa eminye imikhwa ibuye isebenzise, umzekelo, ukuqhuba umzimba ekuseni, ukuhlamba izandla phambi kokutya, njl njalonjalo umkhuba onobungozi uhlobo lwesifo kuxhomekeke kwinto ethile.
Imikhwa emibi inokuthiwa njengezenzo ezinjengoku: umlutha weziyobisi, umkhwa wokubetha izipikili, ukutshaya, ukufunga, ukutshiza iminwe, ukugawula, ukunyusa ukutya, ukukhwela kwesikhumba nakwezinye iindawo zomzimba. Imikhwa emibi imonakalisa kakhulu umntu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha imenza azive engakhululeki. Kunzima kakhulu ukulahla, kodwa ukuba uzama, kunokwenzeka. Ngenxa yale nto sidinga umzamo omkhulu kunye nomonde. Imikhwa emibi, ngokuqhelekileyo, isekelwe kwintlobo ethile yokhathazeka kwengqondo, ingaba neentlungu, uxinzelelo, ukudandatheka, umntu uzama ukuzincwina.
Ukuzithemba kuncitshiswa.
Ukuba umntu akaqinisekanga, unamahloni okubonakala kwakhe, ngoko uyazikhumbuza rhoqo iimpahla zakhe, alulawule iinwele zakhe, njl njl. Ngokukhawuleza iya kuba ngumkhwa, umkhuba omubi. Ukulwa nemikhwa yabo embi, kufuneka uhlolisise wena kunye nezenzo zakho ukuqonda isizathu sokuba siyenze. Hlaziya izenzo zakho. Kodwa akusiyo yonke imikhwa emibi esekelwe kwiingxaki zengqondo, ininzi isiseko esisiseko, umzekelo, kunokube sekude, emsebenzini okanye kwisikolo.
Yenza isigqibo esiqinileyo.
Ukulahla imikhwa akulula. Kukho imikhwa emibi ebudeni beemvakalelo. Ukuba izenzo zithembekileyo, ngoko ekupheleni izenzo ziba ngumkhwa. Umzekelo, ukutshaya. Kutheni abantu betshaya? Ngenxa yokuba ngale ndlela baphazamiseka kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki, amava. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ulahle imichimo emibi, kufuneka uqikelele ngokuchanekileyo nokuba kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe nokuba ufuna. Kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abanomnqweno oqinileyo, kwiimeko ezininzi, umkhuba omubi ubuyele kumntu. Ngoko ke, kufuneka sihlalutye yonke into kakuhle.
Kubalulekile ukudala isicwangciso sokutshintsha.
Kusuka kwimikhwa ungayichitha, ukuba ulungelelanisa ukuphumeza umphumo. Zama ukungabandakanyi ebomini bakho obuvimbela umkhwa wakho, uze uzalise le nto engenamsebenzi ngenye into. Zama ukuzibandakanya ngenye into, enokuba luncedo ngakumbi. Unokuzibandakanya ngento ethile, okanye uhlale phantsi uze udle nonke, hlafuna imbewu kunye nokunye okuninzi. Ngoko, kungekudala uza kufunda ukujamelana nomkhwa wakho, kwaye endaweni yokuziphatha emibi uya kuba luncedo.
Cela uncedo kwizizalwane.
Le yenye indlela eqinisekileyo yokuphelisa umkhwa. Kufuneka udibanise kwaye uxelele izihlobo zakho malunga neengxaki zakho, ukwenzela ukuba zixhase kwaye zikuncede ukulahla umkhuba ombi. Vala abantu baya kuba nako ukunika ingxelo kuwe, ukukukhumbuza xa uphinde ubandakanyeke kule nto.
Yenza iimeko zokusombulula ingxaki.
Zama ukuphepha zonke ezo zimo ezikukhokelela kulo mkhuba. Zizinyame ngaphezu kwanoma yini. Ukuba ufuna ukutya, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba akudingeki ukuba wenze oku, uze uzame ukwenza into ehlukile. Gwema iinkampani, abantu abaphethwe ngumkhwa ofanayo. Bangakuchukumisa, kwaye uya kuphinda uhlulwe kwisilingo.
Into ephambili ayikukhawuleza.
Ukuba unomkhwa ongaphezu kweyodwa, ngokokuqala, zama ukukrazula enye, kwaye kuphela emva kwesinye. Ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwimikhwa emininzi ukuphelisa ngaphandle kwesiganeko akunakwenzeka. Udidekile kuwe, kwimigudu yakho, yonke into inokuphelisa uxinzelelo, ngoko kuqala ulahle umkhwa omnye.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukulahla nawuphi na umkhuba omubi, umntu uthatha malunga neenyanga. Eli xesha liwanele ukuzikhusela kumkhwa ombi, okanye ukutshintshela ezinye izinto. Into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyikuzikhawuleza, kodwa ukulwa ngokukhawuleza ngengxaki yakho.
Ukwenza umkhwa, ofuna ukuwukulahla, kuthathe ixesha elide, ngoko ngoku kuthatha ixesha elide lokumisela entsha.
Ukuziphatha kwethu ngumkhuba wethu. Zonke izenzo zethu ziquka imikhwa yethu. Ukuba unomntwana ekhaya, kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo ekuziphatheni kwakho. Emva koko, abantwana bakopisha ngokupheleleyo abazali babo. Ukuyeka imikhwa emibi yabantwana kunzima kakhulu kunabantu abadala.