Uthando ngumdlalo, kwaye ngubani owamthanda kuqala, walahleka. Ngoko bakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo abanye abantu, uze ufihle uthando lwabo ngokujulile, ukuze ungaboni ulahlekile, unobuthakathaka, unobungozi. Kodwa ngaba oku kunokuthintela abantu ukuba bavule iimvakalelo zabo? Ziziphi ezinye izizathu ezibangela ukuba aba bantu bafihle, kwaye ziphi iimpawu ezinika umthandi wemfihlo?
Izizathu zokuphoqa amadoda ukufihla uthando lwabo
Izizathu zokufihla iimvakalelo zabo kwintombazana inokuba yinto eninzi. Isizathu salo mlingana okanye umgangatho wentlalo, ukuchonga ngokukhawuleza akunakwenzeka njalo. Kodwa ukwazi ngezinto ezifunekayo kule nto kuya kusenza sikwazi ukuqonda uhlobo lwesigqubuthelo somntu kwaye, ukuba umfana uyakuthanda, kuya kunceda ukwenza ngeemeko ukwenzela ukumbeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo:- Mthintela uhlamvu. Indoda enzima kunzima ukuvelisa imvakalelo kunye neengqiqo. Ukhetha ukuhlala ethule, kwaye uchaze isimo sakhe sengqondo ngentombazana ngezenzo. Kuninzi nje ngomntu! Ngoko kungekudala emva koko uza "kuthetha" ... izenzo.
- Iimpawu zemfundo. Amakhwenkwe amaninzi afundiswa ukususela ebuntwaneni ukuba kufuneka abe namandla kwizinto zonke, kwaye amadoda okwenene akufanele avunyelwe ukutshabalalisa "i-snot kwiswekile", njengenye intombazana enhle. Lo ngumqondiso wobuthathaka! Ngoko umfana ugcina iimvakalelo zakhe, ngenxa yokuba uyaqiniseka ukuba amadoda okwenene awadansa, ungalili kwaye ungavumi ukuba uyamthanda.
- Ukuzithoba. Iindleko zemfundo enzima kakhulu, ukubonakalisa ukungathandabuzi kumfana ebuntwaneni, ukukhanyela intlalo yakhe - konke oku kudala ukungaqiniseki kunye nokuzibandakanya. Umntu uya kuvuya ukuvuma, kodwa ucinga ukuba akayena mntu kwaye akafanelekanga kwintombazana enjalo.
- Uloyiko lokuthotywa. Abanye abantu bayesaba ukuphulwa kwiqhayiya labo, ukuba kuphela ukucinga ukuba baya kukhanyeka okanye bahlekise kwiintliziyo, bethintele ngokupheleleyo umnqweno wabo wokubonakalisa ngokucacileyo isimo sabo sengqondo baze bavume uthando lwabo.
- Amava olwalamano olubi. Ukungaphumeleli othandweni kunokukhawulela ixesha elide umnqweno wokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uyazifihla iimvakalelo zakhe zokwenene kungekhona kwintombazana ayithandana nayo, kodwa naye ngokwakhe. Ngoko i-psyche ilula ukujamelana nentlungu.
- Ukoyika ukulahlekelwa inkululeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzimela kubonwa ngabantu njengento ebiza kakhulu. Ngokwemvelo, akukho mntu uya kukhulula inkululeko yakhe eyigugu. Ngoko ba cwaka ngento yokuba bathandana neendlebe, ukuze bangatshatanga.
- Isitampu kwipaspoti. Indoda engahlawulelwayo inokuthi ithathwe, kodwa, ukwesaba ukutyhilwa, iya kufihla imvakalelo yakhe. Akunjalo okubi, kodwa into yokuba abanye abantu bafihla umtshato wabo kwiintombazana abayithandayo, xa bathetha ukuqala ubudlelwane "obunxele".
Iimpawu "zithetha" ngothando lomfana
- Khangela ubuso kunye nesimo. Amehlo othandekayo anikezela nangona umntu ogcinwe kakhulu. Kuzo, nobunzulu, kunye neentlanzi, kunye neentloni. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo zibonakalisa ebusweni buso. Konke kubhalwe ebusweni bakhe. Umfana ke udibanise, aze aphenduke ephahleni phambi kwentombazana, uyamphulaphula ngomlomo wakhe evulekile, ehluthayo, ephazamisekile ngeemvakalelo, okanye ngokungaqhelekanga, engamomothekayo.
- Imizobo. Umzimba uyisalathisi esingcono kakhulu senyaniso. Imisitho iya kukhutshwa ngentloko yenkwenkwe ngothando. Inokuba yinto engekho nto okanye ubunzima ekuhambeni, umnqweno wokuthintela intombazana "engaqhelekanga," xa emdlula into ethile okanye incedisa ukugqoka ingubo, ukungazi kakuhle ukunyuka kweenwele zakhe, njl. Ukukhangwa kwentombazana kunokunyangwa xa umntu ekhuluma, Uhlala ebeka izandla zakhe ezinqeni, ezinqeni, zisasaza imilenze yakhe.
- Izwi kunye nentetho. Izwi lomntu ovakalelwa iimvakalelo zengqondo, phantsi kweempembelelo zama-hormone ziba zizinzulu, zizaliswe ngamagama angama-languid kunye namanqaku okukhupha. Kodwa intetho, ngokuchaseneyo, ingajika ukusuka ekufundeni nokubhala kunye nokuqulatheka kumagama, amagama kunye nezandi ezingaqhelekanga. Ngomntu onjalo bathi akakwazi ukudibanisa amagama amabini. Kodwa kwenzeka enye indlela, umfana owayethetha ngokucacileyo ngumbane, ufumana amagama athando kakhulu intombazana ethandekayo, ambiza ngokuthi unomnxeba ngamagama kunye namagama okuncinci amancinci.
- Kubonakala. Inomdla kwintombazana loo mntu ufuna ukuthanda yonke into, kwaye imbonakalo ayikho. Uhlawula ngakumbi ingcoko yakhe, ngokunyanisekileyo ukhetha iingubo, izicathulo kunye neqhumiso, ngokuqhelekileyo ubukeka kwisibuko. Kwamadoda amaninzi, uthando luthintelo olukhulu ukuqala ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kunye nesizathu esikhulu sokukrazula imikhwa emibi efana notywala nokutshaya.
- Indlela yokuziphatha. Abantu abaqhakamshelweyo badla ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba umntu osebenzayo kunye obalaseleyo kuluntu lweentombazana ethile uya kuba ngokuzolisayo ukuzola nokuzimela, kwaye ukuzola kuya kuba yinto enesibindi kunye nesigxina, kukho izizathu zokubakhokhelisa ukuwa ngothando. Kwakhona, amadoda amaninzi othandana agxininisekile kwaye akhathazekile, aqikelele zonke iiminqweno aze akhumbule imihla engalibalekiyo.
- Isithuba somntu. Ukuba sele eswele ngothando, umfana akabonakali ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwindawo yokuhlala kwentombazana, kodwa naye uzama ukumbandakanya kwindawo yakhe - ukuzisa abahlobo bakhe, ukumemela ekhaya, abonise abazali bakhe. Xa ethetha nentombazana, uguqula iingxoxo eziyimfihlakalo, ahlanganyele amaphupha akhe okanye iimfihlelo ezifihlakeleyo, uvumele kwihlabathi lakhe, apho, mhlawumbi, kubo bonke, umnyango uvaliwe ngokuqinile.
- Nomona. Umntu othanda, kodwa othulileyo, unokungazi kakuhle intombazana yakhe impahla. Kwaye nangona le ntombazana ingakhange ikhumbule ngeemvakalelo zakhe, uyaqiniseka ukuba nguyena. Kwaye into enesihawu, akayi kuvumela nabani na ukuba bajonge oko bathetha ngokudlala ngothando, ukubetha kunye nokunika nayiphi na imiqondiso yokuqwalasela. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwemvakalelo okanye ukuhlaselwa ngokugwenxa kwindlela abayeni abanomdla ngayo kwintombazana yakhe, baya kuthetha malunga nenkwenkwe ngothando ngaphezu kokuthanda kwakhe.