Ngelishwa, ukuthembela akusebenzi kwiimpawu ezifumanekayo kanye kunye nobomi. Ihlala itshintshe, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukusebenza rhoqo ukuze uqhagamshelane kunye nokholo phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Yenza iphutha, khubekisa kwaye uziphoqe ukuba ungakholelwa lula kunokuba ukhethe ukuzithemba kwintsapho kwakhona. Ngako-ke, umntu akafanele akhathaze le ngongoma yobudlelwane ngokungahloneliyo, kuba uthando lufana nekhaya lokufanisa, kwaye ukuthembela kuyo ngumdlalo ophantsi, sisusa umdlalo "wokholo" - indlu "yothando" iyawa.
Indlela yokuqala ukuseka ulwalamano oluthembayo, ngelixa lingenzi iimpazamo, ukuze ungabhubhisi? Sineempendulo kulo mbuzo.
Izizathu zokungathembeki.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukungathembeki komntu kubakho ukususela ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Khumbula indlela lakho iqabane eliqale ngayo? Ngaba ukholwe kuyo yonke into yintanda yakho ukususela ngomhla wokuqala? Kukho nawuphi na, ubuncinane bokungathembeki okanye ukungathandabuzeki ekuqaleni. Akuzange ilahleke kwaye kude kube ngoku, xa usufundile, unesizathu esininzi sokukholelwa nokwethemba kunokukholelwa. Ukuba ngenxa yeso sizathu iqabane lakho likunike isizathu sokungabaza - ukuzithemba kokuwa. Kungekudala i-drop will grow to sea, ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo okanye cha. Yonke ityala liza kuba ngcamango, ukucinga, ukuqikelela, kunye nezinto zonke ezaziwayo "kodwa ngokukhawuleza." Ukuba ngaphambili, xa umyeni sele ephuzile emsebenzini, saziqonda ngokuzithelekileyo kwaye sinikezele, ngoko, emva kokuba sibone ukuba ngandlela-thile wajonga kakubi umfazi omhle, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu osebenza naye-konke, "kodwa ngokukhawuleza "Iyaqala ukusebenza. Kwaye sele sinezinto ezininzi ezinokukhetha, apho indoda ethandekayo "ngokukhawuleza" iqhutyelwa nantoni na, kodwa ingasebenzi. Ngenxa yoko ingxabano ekhulayo.
Ikhwele esinye isizathu sokungathembeki. Ukuba nomona ngokuqhelekileyo nothando kuthathwa njengento engabonakaliyo, kodwa bambalwa abaya kuvumelana ukuba umona onjalo ogqithisileyo ongenanto ungonakalisa ukuvakalelwa okunjalo. Ukhwele, kunoko, luya kuhlukana phakathi kwendlela yobunini kunye nokungathembeki kweqabane.
Kwakhona, kwizizathu zokungathembeki ezivela engqondweni zethu, ziyintlukwano. Nokuba ininzi engaphelelwanga okanye engabonakaliyo, ingakhula ibe yinto yokuhlaselwa kunye nokuwa kweentlobano.
Ngokugqithisileyo, ukususela kwiingqungquthela, abafazi bachaphazeleka kakhulu, abakholelwa ukuba baphile ngoxolo noxolo. Iingcali zengqondo zisoloko ziqaphele izibini ezinjalo ezingenakho ukuthetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiintsapho akuvunyelwanga ukukhalaza ngeengxaki, ukugxeka izenzo zothandana, ngokuzenzekelayo wenze isigqibo okanye ucelomngeni. Iibini eziphikisanayo, zixubusha ngakumbi kunye, ngelixa zifumana ulwazi oluphezulu. Emva koko, ingxabano yinto enxibelelwano. Kulula nje, olu nxibelelo luvakalelwa kakhulu kwaye lukhawuleza lugqithisa abantu abatshatileyo, oku kunokukhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato.
Ikoqobo yokungathembeki kunokukhokelela ekuxabaneni, kodwa ngexesha lokuxabana kunamathuba okufumana inyaniso kunokuba uqoke amagama kunye nokufihla imizwa.
Kuthekani ukuba i-trust ithe yazamazama?
Ukuthembela kwintsapho yomelelekile kwaye idinga isimo sengqondo esincinci. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ungagqiba? Inketho ebini: yehlisa izandla uze uphile, ukhangelelana, ukhiqize izinto ezininzi zokuqikelela kunye nokusola entloko yakho, okanye uqale ukususela ekuqaleni.
Kunzima ukubuyisela ulwalamano oluthembayo, kuba ngoku sele unemingxobo yezinkumbulo, eziqhelekileyo ziya kuba ngumqobo wokubambisana.
Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuqalisa ngokukhupha iinkumbulo. Phonsa zonke izinto ezimbi ebomini bakho, zizalise ngeemvakalelo eziqaqambileyo, kunye nethemba kunye nezicwangciso zekamva elikhanyayo. Ngethuba lokubuyiselwa kwetembeko kwintsapho, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele, kwaye kungabikho ukuqhubisana okukhulu. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphepha iingxaki zengquzulwano, ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yethu ingathembeki kwaye ikhunjulwe iya kubangela imeko ephosakeleyo, nto leyo eya kwenza ukuba kube nexhala. Kwaye iimbilini kufuneka zifumane indlela yokuphuma. Ewe, ukuba ufumana isifundo esidibeneyo esiza kukukholisa kubo bobabini, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo niphumule. Kungenziwa ukwenza imidlalo, ukudansa, uhlobo oluthile lokudala, umculo. Into ephambili endiyibumbene kunye, kwaye ngexesha lesifundo owasebenzisanayo.
Mane ube nomdla kwishishini, imeko yempilo, amava omlingane wakho, musa ukumshiya yedwa kunye neengxaki. Yabelana ngeengcamango zakho, iimvakalelo, iingcamango, ucele iingcebiso. Ngokuqhelekileyo xa umntu ebuza umntu ukuba acebise, uyayenza nomntu onokuthenjwa ogunyaziwe kuye. Xa uxoxisana nomlingane, kwimiba yemihla ngemihla, uya kumkhuthaza ngombono obaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kunye nokuthembela kwakho kuye.
Ngaphezu koko, thetha, malunga nantoni na, ukuze ukwazi ukuvula ngokwengeziwe. Joke, qulunqa, kodwa kuphela ukuze amagama okanye izenzo zakho zingakhubekisi iqabane lakho. Xa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kuthintana rhoqo. Ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela ukuthembela komntu, unokuphinda ukopishe impawu yakhe engabonakaliyo, kwaye uchukumise ngengozi umgca wesigxina somzimba. Musa ukutshintsha i-speck yothuli oluvela ehlombe lakhe lasekhohlo, ukukrazula ilizwi elincinci kwindlebe engasekhohlo, ubanga esitini lesobunxele. Oku akusiyo imilingo, kwaye kungabi nongcongconi, nje icala elikhohlo lamadoda liyakwazi ukuthinteka. Makube yimfihlo yenu.
Ukuba umbuzo wendlela yokwakha ukuthembela kwintsapho kusengumxholo wakho, nangona yonke imizamo kunye nezenzo zakho, ngoko lixesha le-psychologist. Ingcali yeengqondo iza kukunceda ukuyicombulula ubunzima obu buncinci de ibe yinto ebalulekileyo. Into eyona nto kukuba umnqweno wabalingani ukuba bahlale kunye, kwaye usombulule zonke iingxaki zidibeneyo. Kuphela ke umphumo omuhle unokwenzeka.