Kutheni etshintsha? Izizathu zokuba kuthenjwa ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakho, kunokubaninzi njengoko ufuna. Oku akusoze iphoso lomntu, kodwa kuphela abalingani bobabini.
Bathi amadoda isithembu kwaye abanako ukunikela ubomi babo kumfazi omnye. Oku akuyinyani, kodwa yodwa inkolelo, ekulungele ukulungelelanisa. Kukho imizekelo apho amadoda angenazo iintlungu ahlala kunye nomfazi oyedwa kunye nobomi, ngaphandle kwemfuneko yokuthanda omnye umntu. Enyanisweni, abafazi bayatshintsha ubuncinane, ezinye izazinzulu zihlala zicinga ukuba zininzi, kodwa musa ukuzivakalisa.
Kwakhona akunjalo ukuba ingelosi yindoda ibingqonge i-razluchnitsa embi, imphoqa ukuba ibe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ndixolise, kodwa ngaba lo mkhulu, onamandla kwaye okhulile ukhangelele njengethole elingenalwazi, elowo wonke umntu angayishayela ngentambo? Ukuba umntu wagqiba kwelokuba wayekhohlakele, kwakukho kuphela isigqibo sakhe.
Kukho uluvo lokuba bahamba kuphela kubafazi abanobubi, abanesithakazelo, abanomona nabaxabana. Kakade ke, zonke ezi mpawu hazinako ukunyaniseka okukhulu, kodwa kuthekani malunga nobuhle obukhohlisayo, abahlakaniphileyo, abanobubele nabanovelwano? Ubuqhetseba buvela kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akuyi kuba yinto embi ukucinga ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumzuzu xa ubuhlobo bakho buqala ukutshintsha, xa iingxaki zaqala ukuvela, kwaye yintoni na iphoso lakho. Into ephambili, ukuhlalutya ubomi bakho kunye, ungazami ukubhala ukutshutshiswa kwi-borski okanye ngeyodwa ongeyitye ihembe. Kungenzeka ukuba awuzange uqaphele ukuba zombini zicolile komnye nomnye.
Esinye sezihlandlo ezibalulekileyo kule meko sinquma ukuba uza kwenza ntoni emva koko. Ukuba awulungele ukuxolela, zama ukubuyisela ubudlelwane kunye namava kunye kunye, le nqaku ayikho kuwe.
Yintoni ongayenziyo?
Impendulo yokuqala kwiindaba zokungathembeki kweqabane liyakuthi, inene, inomsindo kunye nomsindo. Umfazi onqabileyo unokumthintela iimvakalelo zakhe aze angaphosisi. Izahlulo ezinjalo kwaye zivusa umgama omnye wabalingani omnye komnye.
Awunayo, kwaye akufanele uthule. Ngokuqinisekileyo, usitsho ngokuqinisekileyo oko uvakalelwa, kodwa ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuxhalabisa. Iqabane lakho kufuneka liyazi ukuba isenzo sakhe senze ukuba buhlungu kwaye kufuneka uthwale uxanduva lwayo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungangcikiva, kodwa nje ukuthetha izinto, kuba ukuhlambalaza kunokubangela ukunyanzeliswa kunye nokungafuni ukunxibelelana.
Isisombululo sesibini ngokuqhelekileyo sinomnqweno wokuba novelwano nokuziphindiselela razluchnitsu. Kufanelekile ukuphepha kulo. Uza kubonakala ekukhanyeni kakhulu kumntu wonke nakwiqabane naye, ekubeni umncintiswano uya kubamba intende kwaye abe emehlweni endoda yakhe ixhoba. Ukongeza, impindezelo ayiyi kwenza nantoni na kwaye ayiyi kutshintsha into. Umsebenzi wakho ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe kwintsapho, kutheni uxakeke, ukuba uhlala elahlekile?
Akuyimfuneko ukubandakanya zonke izalamane, abahlobo, oogxa ekuxazululeni le ngxaki. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kunikezela zakho ezondeleyo kwiingxaki zakho, kodwa ungabaceli ukuba bafundise umyeni wabo ukuba abe yinyaniso, ukuthetha naye okanye kumnye umthelela kuye - uza kwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu. Ungathathi ilinen ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwendlu.
Yintoni efanelekileyo ukuyenza?
Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, eninzi imali, ukuze uphume kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo kunye nelahleko encinci. Kuya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukuba ungayisebenzisi.
Idilesi kwesazi sengqondo - kule mizuzu enzima, uncedo olufanelekileyo oluyimfuneko kuwe. Uya kukwazi ukuziqonda, wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kwaye uphephe iimpazamo ezininzi.
Musa ukulinganiselwa kuphela ngale ngxaki. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubomi bakho abuphelelanga kuphela kumyeni wakhe kunye neminqweno yakhe. Ngoku unethuba elihle lokuzinika ixesha elilodwa, kuba akukho mthengi onokuthi uqhubeke uhlala ecaleni lakho? Hlangana nabangani, bhalisela ukudansa, kwiholo yezempilo, nantoni na, kodwa zama ukuthabatha ixesha lakho lokukhulula ngezinto ezininzi ozithandayo.
Ixesha apho iingxaki zenzeka kwintsapho zingasetyenziselwa ukutshintshisa amandla kwenye indawo. Umzekelo, unokuhlawula ngakumbi umsebenzi kwaye uphumelele kwimpumelelo ethile eya kunceda ukuqinisa ukuzithemba.
Yenza okuthile okulungileyo kuwe kuphela. Ukutyelela i-salon, utshintshe iinwele zakho, utshintshe i-wardrobe. Bathi ukukhohlakelela ixesha lokuba utshintsho oluthile, kwaye luyinyaniso. Shintsha, ungakhange ukhangele emuva.
Zama ukulwa nomntu onetyala, ngomsindo nomnqweno wokuziphindezela. Ezi mvakalelo ziwonakalisa, zenza uhlupheke. Ekugqibeleni, awuzange ushiyeke kakhulu: umsebenzi, mhlawumbi, abantwana, intombi, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Ubomi abuzange bube nantoni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubonakala njani.
Kutheni uza kubuya?
Amadoda ayedla ngokushiya intsapho ngenxa yabathandi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubonakala ngathi. Isizathu sokuvalwa kwesi sikhokelo sokulahlekelwa yimali efunyenwe kwiminyaka kunye nokulahlekelwa kwintuthuzelo eqhelekileyo.
Indoda inakho ukubuyela kwintsapho, kuba inkosikazi yakhe ayimazi kunye nawe. Uya kuba nako ukwenza iimpazamo, oye waxolelwa ngazo ixesha elide, kodwa oko kunzima ukuxolela umfokazi.
Ekugqibeleni uMninimzi uya kufuna ukuchaneka kobudlelwane, kwaye abantu abanakuze banyamezele naziphi na iziqulatho. Ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yakho - ukuzola, ukuzithemba, ukulungele ukudibanisa, inkosikazi ingakhangela inzuzo encinci.
Ukongezelela, uthando kunye nokugqithiswa komnqweno, kunye neenkcukacha ezindala kunye ezinamandla kunzima ukulibala. Unethuba elihle lokubuyisela ubuhlobo kunye nokubuyisela iimvakalelo, abaninzi abantu bayakuvuyela ukulungele oku.
Xa uzama ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe kwintsapho, kubalulekile ukuzijonga wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho oluncinci lwangaphandle - luya kunceda ukuphepha ukugqithisa kwisinqumo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzithemba kwinto oyifunayo kanye kunye nokulungele ukuxolela umlingane wakho. Ukuba ukuzingca akukuvumeli ukuba uthethelele, kwaye ukuqhawula umtshato kubonakala kuyindlela engcono kakhulu, kufuneka ungazami ukuqinisa intsapho yakho-mhlawumbi, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo.