Ukongeza kwizinto eziphathekayo, ukuphakama kokuqala kweemvakalelo kunye neminqweno efanayo, amandla abo abatshatileyo ukugcina yonke into abenzileyo ndawonye ixesha elide lidlala indima ebalulekileyo. Kwaye umbandela obaluleke kakhulu wokulondolozwa kwemizwa yinconywa kunye nemiqondiso yokuqwalasela umfazi, kumyeni wakhe othandekayo.
Imiqondiso emincinci.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi umntu angayisebenzisa ngayo, ukuze athole ingqalelo kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumfazi. Ngaloo ndlela kunokwenzeka ukuba ungenzi igalelo elikhulu emzimbeni, kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Kwimeko enjalo, into ephambili kukubeka phambili ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye ulungiselele iimfuno zakho kunye nemizamo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Njengoko kuvela ukuba iyona ndlela iphumelele, kukho ezo zibonakaliso zengqalelo wonke umntu owaziyo. Kodwa ngenxa yokufikeleleka kwabo, amadoda ayayeka ukubanika ukubaluleka kakhulu njengabesifazane. Ngoko kuvela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha indoda kunye ne-asterisk zikulungele ukuphuma ezulwini, kwaye umfazi wakhe ufuna ezinye izinto ezingabalulekanga. Ngoko imeko ivela xa umntu ekholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba loo nto ayikwazi ukuthelekiswa nezenzo zakhe, uqala ukukholelwa ukuba imizamo yakhe ayinakucatshulwa, kwaye umfazi ukhononda ngexesha elifanayo ukuba akaqondwa kwaye akafumani ngqalelo.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba indoda ekuqaleni, iyancoma kunye nemiqondiso yokuqwalasela umfazi wayo, ngokuthe rhoqo, kunye nokuhamba kwexesha, kutshintshela into ethile kwihlabathi jikelele kwaye inentsingiselo, ecinga ngolu hlobo oluqhelekileyo nolunzima. Kodwa eqinisweni, umfazi wayedinga olu hlobo lwesiganeko, kodwa ukubonakalisa rhoqo, kwaye akukho nto ibonakalisa ngayo imvakalelo, emva koko i-lull yenziwa ixesha elide.
Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, umyeni wam, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuye, udinga ubuncinane ngomzuzu, kodwa jonga ihlabathi ngamehlo ebhinqa. Umfazi angamnceda kule nto. Ukuthetha ngeemfuno zakho, uza kwenza isinyathelo sokuqala ekuqondeni kunye nokuvisisana.
Kukho imigaqo-siseko yokuvandlakanywa apho umfazi ekhokelwa ebomini ekufumaneni ixabiso eliyinyaniso kuye. Kwaye enye yeemigaqo iqhubeka ingqalelo. Ngaloo ndlela kuphela umfazi onokuvakalelwa kwaye uyabaluleka kwintsapho. Ukwenza oku, ukwanele ukuthetha amagama anomdla imihla ngemihla, ukubhiyozela impumelelo yayo, thetha ngezo zinto ozithandayo kakhulu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyavuma ukuthanda.
Ukuba sibeka ingcamango enjalo kwisikhokelo sokucinga, ininzi yabasetyhini iya kuba yintlobo yeenqanawa, kodwa inentamo ende. Ngeke ukwazi ukuzalisa loo mkhumbi ngamatye amakhulu, kodwa isityalo esincinci sinokungena. Yaye ukuzalisa le nqanawa uya kufuna iimillion zeesanti ezinje. Ngoko ke umfazi ukumzalisa ngeemvakalelo ezifudumeleyo kunye nokwenza uzive unothando lwakho, udinga izigidigidi zeempawu zokuqwalasela, ukubonakaliswa kwenkathalo kunye nokuncoma.
Umlingo wokucedisa.
Ukuzalisekisa akusoloko kuthetha ukunyanzela. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kubonwa njengophawu lokuhlonipha, okanye ukunyaniseka. Xa indoda ithe iyancoma umfazi wayo, ummangaliso omncinci uyenzeka. Le ngenye yeemeko ezimbalwa apho igama eliqhelekileyo linokufumana unonwabo oluninzi, lonwabo kwaye lukhanyise amehlo.
Kodwa, ukuze ufumane umfazi onqwenelayo, umntu makavumele umntu ukuba enze imiqondiso enjalo, athethe izincomo aze akwazi ukuqonda kakuhle. Ikhono lomfazi ukufumana ingqwalasela alibalulekanga kunokuba umntu akwazi ukuyisebenzisa. Ukuba indoda iyancoma umfazi wayo, kodwa ingayifumana impendulo oyifunayo, isishukumiso sokuthatha isinyathelo esinjalo siyanyamalala ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ukuba uphawu lokuqwalasela lulandelwe ngokubambisana, ukubanga, amazwi ohloniphekileyo, ukunyanzela impendulo, ukuvuma okanye ukumomotheka - indoda iya kufuna ukuba kuphinda iphindwe. Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu idumisa ngokunyamekela nokubonisa imiqondiso yokuqwalasela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele udeleleke, ngoko ukuphendula kwakho kuya kufana nokuhlambalaza, kwaye akuyi kuba nomphumo oyifunayo. Landela le mithetho emincinci, kwaye ke iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuqala ukuzuza kwakhona.
Kwenzeka kwaye kunzima.
Ibhinqa elifuna ukuqwalaselwa limele likhumbule ukuba akubona bonke abantu abazimisele ukubeka umngcipheko kwaye benze, njengoko bethetha kwimfama. Makube yinto encinci. Ukwesaba ukwenza iipazamo kwenza ukuba bayeke ekulahlekelweni okukhulu kwamandla, kodwa banokuqiniseka ukuba ngenxa yoko. Ungesabi ukuxelela umntu ngqo malunga nomnqweno wakho. Ukuba ufuna ukudibanisa-vuka uze ucele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba uya kukugubungela. Ukuba ufuna u kiss-kiss. Ngexesha elide, indoda ayiyi kuhlaziswa ngolu hlobo ngoluvo lwakhe, izinto ezincinci, kuba uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba zibalulekile kuwe.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba indoda iqala ukusebenza, kodwa ivela ngokuthe ngandlela-thile. Musa ukuthukuthela okanye ukumgxeka. Ukudibanisa nokuvunyelwa, ubuncinane ukuba wenza into ethile, kwaye umphumo emva kwexesha, kuphuculwe. Kwakhona, inkxaso enjalo iya kubachaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo ubomi bakho bobuqu, kodwa kunye nempumelelo yomsebenzi womlingane. Njengoko indoda enhle ithi, kuhlale kukho isilumko esilumkileyo. Zive ukhululekile ukuthatha le nxaxheba, kwaye uya kuphumelela ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ingqwalasela kumfazi ayiyi kukwanela ngokubonakala kweengxaki ezithile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, okokuqala ukuhamba yimvakalelo engakuvumeli ukuba ubone imeko. Kwaye ekufumaneni isisombululo kunye, kuvela ukuba isibini siqala ukugxeka omnye nomnye. Le ndlela ayimkelekanga. Emva kwakho konke, ukuqonda kuya kubakho kwizinto ezincinci apho iimvakalelo zangempela zisekelwe khona.
Ngenxa yoko sinokugqiba ukuba iimpendulo kunye neempawu zengqalelo yomyeni kumfazi wakhe, kwaye ngokuthe ngqo-ziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yemfihlo yobomi obonwabileyo. Nika omnye umnye izinto ezinjengothando, ububele, uthando, ukufudumala, ukuqonda nokuxhasa. Emva kwakho konke, ukwenza umhlobo othandekayo ulula.