Ngaphandle kwehlobo, ilanga lifudumala, umoya ucofa ohlaza kunye nothando. Ngoko ndifuna ukudibana nomntu! Kuphela nje isondo esinamandla sohlobo oluthile lwesilumko kunye nesidenge sihamba: le nyathelo ayifuni ukubonisa. Kodwa musa ukuhlala apho ngonaphakade kumantombazana? Sincoma ukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho - ukuba umfazi ulawula ukumisa ihashe emncintiswaneni aze angene kwindawo yokutshisa indlu, aze aqhelane nomntu - ngokubanzi yinto ebalulekileyo! Ngale ndawo ungafumana khona indoda ngobuhlobo obunzulu kwaye iya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
• Ungesabi ukuthandana esitalato! Ngesizathu esithile kwilizwe lethu kuthathwa njengento eyoyikisayo ukuxelela umfokazi kwisitalato, ngubani igama lakho. Kwaye ngokuvuma isimemo sakhe sokutyelela, ngokubanzi, akukho nto inokuthetha. Nento engenanto! Kwizitratato zilungele ukuhlangabeza ama-bandits kuphela, kodwa kunye namadoda ahloniphekileyo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, enye yazo - isiphetho sakho (nje ngenxa yokuqapha, akufuneki ukuya kuye ngobusuku bokuqala okanye ukucela ukuba uchithe ngokukhawuleza ebusuku).
Kwaye awukwazi ukulinda ade eze kuwe, aze athathe inyathelo ezandleni zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, cela umntu ongowokungafuni, indlela "yokuya khona uze ufumane into". Yaye xa wonke umntu ekutshela, bhokra ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthi okokuqala uva le ngcaciso elula, ifumaneke kwaye ichazwe ngokucacileyo. Gweba naluphi na uncomo olungenangqiqo - lusebenza ngokungafaniyo kuwo onke amadoda ngaphandle kokungafani! Kwaye, uyabona, yena ngokwakhe uya kunika inyuse endaweni efanelekileyo okanye ucele umnxeba.
• Indlela efanelekileyo yokuziqhelanisa ukuya kwiindawo zokuxinwa kwamadoda. Imigca yotywala kwivenkile yasebusuku ayibala. Oku mhlawumbi indawo eyona ndawo kakhulu apho unokuhlangana khona - indoda enxulumene nolwalamano oluqinileyo ilungele ukujonga ngenye indlela. Ngokomzekelo, kwimarike yemoto, kwiivenkile zabazingeli nabalobi kunye nokunye. Kwiindawo ezinjalo, akufaneki ukuba uphawule malunga nesihloko esinokukhetha kuyo intetho-sele isele icacile: vele ucele iingcebiso malunga nokuthenga imoto, iintonga zokuloba, izibhamu nezinye izinto. Luhlobo luni lomntu oluya kulwa nenkosikazi kwibhunga kwaye lingayisebenzisi ithuba lokubonisa ubuchule bakhe kwakhona! Ukwaziswa ngokubanzi kuyo yonke imiba, kwaye umsebenzi wakho ukuphulaphula kuphela kwaye uvume, akukho nto iphazamise "guru". Emva koko, uCarnegie wathi akukho nto enjalo ayinabo abantu kuthi, njengokuba sikwazi ukuphulaphula umnxibelelwano.
Okanye unokwenza oku kulandelayo: sebenzisa uhlobo oluthile lwezemidlalo, umzekelo, i-kayaking. Okanye nje ngokukhawuleza unakekele "usihlalo wokugungqa." Awudingi ukuba ube ngumphathi wezemidlalo - unokukwazi ukuba ngumfazi obuthathaka, ongaphumelelanga. Siqinisekisile kuwe: abaninzi abantu baya kufuna ukuthatha i-patronage phezu kwakho. Kwaye omnye wabo ukhetha - zigqibo kuwe.
Okanye olu khetho: abe ngumdlali wezemidlalo ngexesha elithile - ukuya kwimicimbi yezemidlalo, uye kwiimidlalo. Enyanisweni apho kulula ukuyifumana indoda!
• Ukuba u-autoladie, ungayeki uncedo lomntu! Ibhinqa elididekileyo (ingakumbi ukuba ingabonakali kakubi kwaye igqoke ngesitayela), ezama ukungaphumeleli ukufumana imoto yakhe kwindlela eshiyiweyo okanye ukutshintsha ivili, kubangela uninzi lwabameli besini esahlukileyo ukuba baqonde kwaye banqwenela ukukunceda (nangona kunjalo, ngokukodwa ukugqithisa ibhasi imihla ngemihla okanye ukuqhuba imoto ephosakeleyo Awudingi - oku kukhulu kakhulu). Okanye ubuze umhlobo womnikazi wecala-yemoto ukukunceda ulungelelanise inkqubo ye-alamu, "ekhwaza" iintsuku ekugqibeleni, okanye ifike ngenye into emoyeni ofanayo. Into eyona nto kukuba akufanele kube nzima kakhulu: umntu onokuzimela kufuneka ngokucwangcisa ukucwangcisa umsebenzi owenziwe nguwe (kwaye ke ungasungula kuphela ngokwakho, kodwa nakwamehlo akho), kwaye ungabonakali kwaye ungabonakali ukuba akakwazi ukulungisa ingxaki.
• Fumana inja uze uyihambe kwinkampani yezinye "inja". Ukuqhelana "nomhlaba wezinja" yinto elula. Inhlanhla, unokuthi, iya ezandleni zakho. Ibhizinisi lakho aliyikulikhumbula. Fumana ngexesha elithile inja ethanda ngayo isihloko oyithandayo, kwaye uzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukuhamba kwakho kuhambelana. Hamba nenja naphi apho unako-uya kudibana ne "osebenza naye". Kwaye okokuqala, zonke iintetho zakho ziyakhathalela kuphela izilwanyana, ekuhambeni kwexesha uya kuba ngabahlobo abangenakulinganiswa, kwaye apho kwaye uthanda ukuthandana. Kwaye, ngendlela, jonga inja yakhe-uya kukuxelela ezininzi malunga nomhlaba womnini. Ukuba inja inobungane, inokwenzeka, kwaye umnini ufana. Ukuba ukrokrela kwaye unobundlobongela, khangela enye ingcono "inja" (ubunokwenzeka ukuba inja ikopishe umlingani womnini uphezulu).
• Sebenzisa abahlobo, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo ukuze ufumane ukuba unomfundi ohloniphekileyo kwisandla sakho. Akukho nto ihlazo malunga nalokhu: amawaka abantu ayazi. uncedo lomntu. Buza umhlobo wakho ukuba "ngengozi" ukumema zombini kuye, uze uzame ukwenza konke ukukholisa iqabane lakho. Ukuba ngaba abahlobo abanakukunceda - bonke abangatshatanga sele beqhelile - qhagamshelana ne-arhente yomtshato. Apho baya kuphakamisa uluhlu lwabafake izicelo. Yaye ungabi namathemba malunga nesiphakamiso-abaninzi abantu baye badibana nesiqingatha sabo ngale ndlela. Zama ukusebenzisa zonke iindlela-ke amathuba okuphumelela aya kunyuka ngamaxesha amaninzi!
I-PSYCHOLOGISTS IKHUMBULA
Ukuze ukukhangela kwakho kuphumelele kwaye kungabikho ukusabalalisa kwizinto ezinqabileyo, sinqume indlela ofuna ukuyikhetha ngayo. Ukuba unengqiqo, onobubele nangengqiqo, ungafuni ukuba ulaka kunye nokukwazi ukuguqula izigidi. Ukuba uthembisa kwaye uphumelele kwishishini, mshiye wedwa kunye nezicelo zokumisa isikhonkwane kwidonga kwaye ulungise isinyithi esisebenzayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuba ube yindoda enokuthula, onokuthula, ungalindelanga ukuba uya kuvuya, uye kunye nawe ukuya kudibanisa imfashini, okanye ukuba uya kubonisa iimangaliso zezinto eziphathekayo ebhedini. Ewe, ukuba uphupha ngomlilo ovuthayo, apho bonke abesifazana bephelile, ungalindeli kuye ukunyaniseka engcwabeni. Ngelizwi, gqibo malunga neminqweno yakho, uze uqale usebenze ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Naphezulu. Ungalokothi uziqhayise indoda ukuba nguwe "owaqamba amanga" kuye. Nangona okokuqala kwakusuka kuwe, makacinge ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luqhubekile ngenxa yobuchule bakhe. Khuphaza indoda leyo! Emva kwakho konke, nangona ukuba isini esomeleleyo kunye nomsebenzi othile wasetyhini, abaninzi abantu bayaqiniseka ukuba ekugqibeleni, ukhetho lufanele luhlale luphela emva kwabo. Ngoko maye bahlale bevuyile!