Umgaqo osisiseko wokwakha ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akuzami ukugwema izigqibo ezingafanelekanga okanye iingxaki, kodwa ukufunda kwiimpazamo ukwenzela ukuphuhlisa nokufudukela kumanqanaba amatsha ophuhliso lobuntu kunye nolwalamano nabanye.
Kunzima ukuchonga iimpazamo eziphambili umfazi ozenzayo kumntu wakhe. Nasiphi na isibini sakha ukwakha ubudlelwane kwiimeko ezizimeleyo kunye nomntu ngamnye. Kumntu, ukungcatsha kuyiphutha, kwaye umntu akuyona into ezonwabisa ngayo. Omnye uyakwazi ukuxolela umlingane ukuxabana nabazali bakhe, kwaye kumntu lo sisihlandlo sokuqhawula umtshato.
Khangela igolide ithetha
Mhlawumbi, kwiimeko ezininzi, iimpazamo eziphambili ezenziwa ngumfazi zihlobene nokungafumaneki kwintetho yegolide. Ngokomzekelo, ukuzihlukanisa ekunxibelelaneni kubi kakhulu ulwalamano nomyeni wakhe. Ukuba umfazi akakwazi ukuxoxa ngeengxaki njengoko ephakama, uqokelela iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo kunye nentlungu. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, ukucaphukisa, ukubuthela, ukuthululela indlu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo amandla okuvutha akahambisani naloo mqathango. Le ndoda ididekile, kwaye ukulahlekelwa kolawulo phezu kwamazwi kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe ngenxa yamandla emivakalelo kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo engaphendulwanga ngokupheleleyo.
Musa ukuthetha kakhulu
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukugqibezela ngokucacileyo kumntu wakho kukwaphambene nentsapho ephilileyo. Ngokomzekelo, izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba umfazi wenza iphutha xa exelela umyeni wakhe okanye umthandi ngeenveli zakhe zangaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda ayacelwa ukuba axelele ngendlela yonke into. Musa ukuthobela ezi zinto, kuba umntu ofuna kwiibali ezinjalo akusikho oko ucingayo. Ingaba ukhangele umthombo weengxaki ezikhoyo kwiingxaki ezikhoyo, ezikuthi, ngombono wakhe, zivela kwiireveli ezidlulileyo. Ngaba uvuselela umona wakhe okanye uyayixabisa ubunzima, uzame ukuziqhathanisa nomncintiswano.
Susa imikhwa emibi
Iipazamo eziphambili umfazi ozenzayo kumntu wakhe unokucingwa ukuba akafuni ukulawula amacandelo omnyama wobuntu bakhe. Musa ukukhulula kwaye uphumelele kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba banqobe iinyanga zokuqala zokugaya abalinganiswa, abafazi bacinga ukuba ubudlelwane buye bomelela, kwaye baqala ukuzibonakalisa "kubo bonke ubuqaqawuli babo." Ziyavuma ukuba bathethe kakubi indoda kunye nentsapho yakhe, baye kwiingubo ezingenasigxina kunokuba zizenzele amakhaya asekhaya okanye, ngokomzekelo, bonise yonke imeko yendalo yazo. Kufuneka uziqonde ukuba wonke umntu ofuna ukuthanda nokufudumala unomlinganiselo omncinane womonde. Amadoda awanakulungele ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza yonke yakho ingxaki kunye nobomi obunzima. Fumana iindlela zokunciphisa umninzi, uqokelelwe ngenxa yeenqweno ezingazalwanga okanye ukungquzulana nabanye, kwicala. Yiya kwiintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, ncokola kwiiforamu, tyelela i-gym. Musa nje ukulahla lonke ulwalamano olubi kumlingane wakho. Ekuqaleni unokuba novelwano kunye nawe, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha unokubalekela ekuvuyiseni ngakumbi kwaye umntu oqonda ubomi.
Gwema ukugxeka
Ukugxeka ngokubanzi akuyona ithuluzi eluncedo kakhulu loqhagamshelwano. Kufuneka idibene kwaye ichaneke. Ngokugxeka umntu, ngoko ke, hamba, uhambe emaphethelweni enzonzobiliso rhoqo xa uzama ukufundisa okanye ukuphucula. Abafazi abazizilumko bayazi ukuba umntu omdala akakwazi ukutshintshwa. Ngoko ukuba into ayifanelekanga kumntu, kufanele uyenze kwaye uyithathe lula, okanye, ukuba lo luhlobo olungenakuthethelelwa, cinga ngokutshintsha iqabane lakho kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano.
Ukuba ugxeka indoda yonke into oyifunayo, yenze ngokucophelela kwaye uyiqwalasele ingqondo yengqondo yomntu. Umzekelo, eyona nto ikhuthazayo ukutshintsha ugxeki ngumntu ogxeka isenzo esithile, kungekhona indoda yonke. Musa ukuthelekisa kunye nabani na. Kungcono ukuthi: "Ndandinxungule izolo, xa uhleli unxilongo emva kwesondo" kunokuba: "Uya kuhlala utywala uze uye kwigaraji, ungathi uVasya." Eyona nto ingcono, abantu abagxeki njengento "isohlwayo" sokungaziphathi kakuhle, kodwa ukungabi ncoma. Ukuba umntu ujwayele ukufumana ukunyameka kunye nokuphendula okulungileyo, ngokungabikho kwayo, uya kuphawula ukuba wenze into engalunganga, kwaye unako ukuphakanyiswa okuphezulu okanye ulungelelanisa ingqwalasela, okanye uqhube ingxoxo ephosakeleyo nawe.
Xa uzama ukuhlaziya iimpazamo ezingaba zibulalayo uthando lwakho kunye nolwalamano kunye namadoda, ungakhangeli iincwadi zokupheka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, thina sikuxelele ngeempazamo eziqhelekileyo zowesifazane, kodwa khumbula ukuba akukho nto ingcono kunokuba uxoxe ngokucacileyo kunye nolwazi lwento umntu wakho acinga ukuba yimpembelelo, kwaye yintoni engakhange ihlawule ingqalelo.