Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungcatshiswa okunjalo kukuzama ukulahla, ubalekele ebuhlotsheni obungafanelanga ibhinqa, umzekelo, xa intsapho ihlaziya ukuzithemba xa umyeni wakhe ehlala emgxeka into ethile. Ibhinqa ihlala nemvakalelo, kwaye ukuba umntu akanako okanye akafuni ukuxhasa inxalenye yesimo sengqondo sabasetyhini, ngaphezu koko, xa ehlala ehlambalaza, kunokumenza angene kwiingalo zomnye. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi xa umfazi eshiya "ekhohlo", uhlala efuna enye inkxaso yemoya, kwaye ingabi ngesondo njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba yinkxaso enjalo, unyanzelekile ukuba anike umzimba wakhe kulo mntu mntu. Asikwazi ukungavumelani ukuba le ndoda iyavuma ukubonelela ngenkxaso enjalo, iyakonwabela yonke into eyenziwa ngumzimba wayo, ilala nayo.
Emva kweminyaka engama-30, abaninzi abafazi bafumana uxinzelelo olunxulumene nobudala. Ubuqhetseba kumyeni wakhe apha kuya kuba yithuba lokuba babone ubuhle babo, isifiso sangaphambili nesithandwa.
Indoda inokuthetha nomfazi njengentombazana encinci, intombi okanye udade omncinci, inqabileyo ibhinqa layo. Intombazana ifuna ukuba angaboni kuye idodoli okanye ithoyizi, kodwa umfazi okwenene uyaziqonda iinjongo zowesifazane kwintsapho.
Indoda ayisakwazi ukwanelisa umfazi wayo, kwaye yena, ecinezelekile, ulungele ukukhohlisa ukuze anelise imfuno esondeleyo yesikhashana.
Abafazi balala ngesondo, kodwa intombazana ayifumananga ngesondo. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba umyeni, umzekelo, waba ngumntu ongenamdla kwisini. Umfazi unobungozi obuthakathaka, obumnene kwaye ohlala esithobekileyo (kungekho kuzo zonke iimeko zekhosi) kwaye angenakho ukubonisa ukunganeliseki ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ubenzele ukukhohlisa.
Kwintsapho phakathi komyeni nomfazi kwakukho ukuxabana okukhulu, kwakukho ubunzima beentlobano zesini. Kule nto, le ntombazana inomuzwa wokugatywa ngumyeni wayo: "Phonsa, bastard!", Unento yokuziphindezela, kwaye ukunyeliswa kuye akunakugwema.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, utshintsho lunokucaciswa yinto yokuba ibhinqa idinga ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, i-dope. Kwagqitywa ngasentla ukuba intombazana ininzi ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwemizwa, idinga ukubonakala, ukuvakalelwa. Izwi elikuphela kwamadoda elikhangela elitsha liyingcali. Ukuvakalelwa kwintswelo - imfuno yengqondo yomntu ngamnye. Yaye ukuba umfazi enganelisekanga le mfuno ngemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, ukuzizonwabisa, ukuzilibazisa nomyeni wakhe, uqala ukufuna umthombo wokwaneliseka kwicala. Ubomi bentsapho obomi obuqhelekileyo, nabo, buya kubakhokelela ekukhohliseni.
Ukuba ibhinqa lingatshatanga okokuqala, imbangela yokungcatsha eyenziwa ngumfazi inokuba yintando engaphambili kunye nomtsalane obusondeleyo kumyeni wangaphambili. Kule meko kuguquka kumkhwa.
Ngobudlelwane bakhe nomyeni wakhe, intombazana ayiboni nayiphi na ithemba. Njengomthetho, ibhinqa iqwalasela izinto ezininzi. Umlingane akanako ukubonelela ngenkxaso yenkxaso kwintsapho, ahlawule ingqalelo encinane, uye walahlekelwa amandla okwanelisa izidingo zakhe ezisondeleyo, uye walahlekelwa ukuthembeka komtshato, ekugqibeleni. Uyakuqonda ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba inxalenye kunye nokukhohlakele apha kuya kukhawuleza nje le ntlukwano ebudlelwaneni.
Indoda ayinaki ukubonakala kwayo, engalungile, engayithobeliyo loo mfazi. Kwaye lo mntu omtsha osebenzayo unomdla ongaqhelekanga, uhlambulukile, uhlambulukile, unxibe kwaye unxibe ngenaliti. Uyenza yonke into ngenxa yesilingo seentombazana: uthi uyancoma, uyayinika izipho ezilula kodwa ezizimeleyo kwaye uyayithanda intombazana ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo njengowesifazane oyinyaniso owaziyo ukufaneleka kwakhe. Umfazi unomnqweno oqinileyo wokufumana ukuzaliswa kokuzonwabisa ngokwesondo kunye nendoda enjalo. Unako ukutshintsha eli qabane elisebenzayo kunye nalo msebenzi osebenza naye.
Umtshato uchitha ixesha elide emsebenzini wakhe, engashiyi nto kumfazi nakwintsapho yakhe. Ibhinqa likhangelelana kunye nokuxhaswa ngokwesondo kunye nomthandi wakhe, onomntu onjalo ixesha elide.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana ifuna ukuzibonakalisa ngokumncedisa kunye nokumncoma kuye kwabanye abantu ukuba akayi kuthanda kwaye uyathandana nobudlelwane bakhe nomyeni wakhe.
Le meko yinto echasene nayo yangaphambili: umyeni uhlawula ingqalelo yakhe kumfazi kwaye uzama ngamandla akhe onke ukuwanelisa ubuthathaka kunye nemizwa yakhe. Kwaye ukuba intombazana ingazi ukuba uyayithanda ukuba ngubani na, unokutshintsha ukulandela umgaqo: "kulungile apho apho singekho khona."
Utshintsho lomfazi luyakwazi ukuthandana ngothando nomntu onomnye intombazana, umlingane okhubekileyo uya kumguqula ngaphandle kokuzisola.
Ukulawulwa kwamadoda, umzabalazo wamandla-esinye isizathu sokungcatsha umfazi wakhe. Ukuba umyeni uzama ukubonakalisa ukuphakama kwakhe phezu komfazi ngaso sonke ixesha, oku kubanyanzelisa ubudlelwane obudibeneyo phakathi kwazo zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo kunye nokuthandana, oku kwakhona kukhokelela ekukhohliseni.
Kukho uluhlu lwabasetyhini abanokufikelela kumadoda kunye nendlela yokuphila ngokubanzi: "Enye into enhle, kodwa ezimbini zibhetele" okanye "Kodwa ndifuna ukuhlala nomyeni ocebileyo." Njengomfudumala wentsapho yekhoyo yangoku kwaye iyamfanisa, kodwa kakhulu inqunywe ngamagama kunye neengqungquthela "VIP", ukuthengwa kuphela kwii-boutiques ezibizayo, iimpahla kunye nezicathulo ezivela kwiindwendwe ezidumile-i-Valentino, i-Gucci, i-Dolce ne-Cabana. Kwaye le sibini kwindlela yonke ilinga umfazi wakho ngezobuqili kunye nobuqili. Umfazi onjalo uya kubangela ukuba umntu abe nomtshato kunye nentombi, kwaye mhlawumbi unike umyeni wakhe umtshato.
Ukukrexeza kwamadoda akuyona nje into ebangela izizathu zengqondo, kodwa kubangelwa nezinto eziphilayo. Ibhinqa ekuqaleni linamathuba amaninzi okwenza uhlaselo kunomntu. Sitsho iZ. Freud "i-anatomy is destiny". Amadoda ngokwesondo afuna ukulungiswa okungenani, kungenjalo. Kubasetyhini, ngokungafani namadoda, ukulala ngesondo kunokuhlala kuba (nangona ngamanye amaxesha bengenakuzonwabisa). Yonke into ayifunayo kukuba ulale (ngokufanelekileyo, okanye uthathe i-pose) kwaye, ngokubhekiselele kwi-sexologists, "uthatha inxaxheba ekuthandweni kwezesondo." Ubuza: "Yintoni na?". Oososayensi baphendula ngokuthi: "Yonke inja".
Ngendlela, uphando olutshanje luye lwabonisa into emangalisayo: umfazi unakho amathuba okukhulelwa ngenxa yokunxibelelana okungabonakaliyo kunokuba ngumyeni wakhe - umlingani ohlala naye, kwaye kukho ukuxhamla okwaneleyo kwesondo. Ngaphezu koko, malunga ne-50% yamatyala obhinqileyo ayenzeka ngexesha le-ovulation, elihlala kwiintsuku ezingama-5-6 ngenyanga. Kulo thuba kwaye kukho inani eliphezulu lamatyala okungathembeki kwabasetyhini. Yintoni enomdla kule mihla ibhinqa lingahlala, kakuhle, kwaye lilale, kunjalo, kunye nomyeni wayo. Kwaye njengoko kubalwe manani, zonke iintsana ezilishumi elinesibini alishumi "nje kuphela", kodwa ziphinde zikhulelwe ngexesha apho isibeleko somfazi sisidoda samadoda amabini kwangoko. Ngoko kuvela ukuba abafazi, batshintsha abayeni babo, "balungise" kwizitho zabo zofuzo uhlobo "lwemfazwe yesidoda". Kanye njengokuba intonga ikulwela insikazi, inoda ilwa ukufumana ukuqhubeka kwayo. Kwaye, njengomthetho, izilwanyana zesilisa ziphume apha.
Isizathu salokhu yizityalo zezinto eziphilayo, ezisebenza ngokungazi kakuhle. Indoda iyakwazi ukulungelelanisa ukubunjwa kwesidoda sayo kwisimo esiza kwesondo ngaphandle kokuyiqonda. Kwaye umthandi kule ngxaki ukhulula kwiqabane lika-3-4 izihlandlo ngaphezulu kwesidoda kwisenzo esinye sesondo kunomlingani wakhe rhoqo-indoda indoda yesini-6-8. Kwaye ekubeni isithandwa sembewu sikhulu, siyasebenza kakhulu, ngokulandelanayo, kwaye amathuba okukhulelwa kwabasetyhini mkhulu kunomthandi kunokuba yindoda.
Umbuzo unokuvela, kodwa ziphi na izizathu zezinto eziphilayo ezibangelwa ngumfazi. Uyakwenza oku kwakhona kwinqanaba elincinane, ukhetho lwendalo, oluqhutywa yendalo, lusebenza apha. Masithi umfazi ngoLwesithathu walala nomyeni wakhe, kwaye ngengomso wamngcatsha kunye nomthandi wakhe. Nangona eqinisile ukuba waxubusha nomyeni wakhe, wathi, amaxesha angama-8-10 ngenyanga, walala kunye nomthandi wakhe kanye kuphela, ube nethuba lokuba nguyise ngakumbi. Kutheni? Kubalulekile kwendalo ukuba abantwana babonakale bevela ngokugqibeleleyo kumntu ngamnye. Oku kunika i-homo sapiens ithuba lokuphila njengezilwanyana. Kwaye nangona ibhinqa liphila rhoqo ngesondo kunye nomyeni wayo, uyindoda yentsapho eyisibonelo, umntu oshishino ophumelelayo, umphefumlo wenkampani kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa unomsebenzi ophantsi wesondo, akakhathaleli ngendalo. Akuthinti imiba yokuziphatha. Umlingane, olandela izilwanyana zemvelo, uqala ukukhangela ukuzonwabisa kunye nomnye umntu-umthandi. Enyanisweni, ukutshatyalaliswa komfazi kumyeni onothando okunjalo kuya kufana nokuduma kwebala. Kodwa umyeni kule ngxaki awunamsebenzi ukufuna impendulo kumbuzo othi "Ndingathini na, ngenxa yokuba andiyonto, nabani na ..." Isiza senyama sinikela ukhetho lwendalo, kwaye abahloniphekileyo abazi kakuhle ngokuziphatha nokuziphatha.
Ukucaphula oku ngasentla, siyaqaphela ukuba ezininzi iincwadi zinikezelwa ngendlela umfazi oziphatha ngayo indima kaMama Teresa. Kufuneka azibingelele aze akwazi ukuxolela, ukuze agcine umyeni wakhe, nangona xa athengiswa. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba ukuthengwa kwamadoda kunjengomcimbi kwaye inkwenkwezi ilungele nantoni na ukugcina ubudlelwane? Enyanisweni, kwinyani yethu, yonke into ikude nento ebhaliweyo kwincwadi. Ngexesha elithile intombazana iyaba buhlungu, ibuhlungu kwaye iyayiqonda ukuba ukunyaniseka apha kungekhona ukusindisa intsapho, ukubuya kumyeni wakhe akusayi kuba. Umfazi, ubalekele ukuphelelwa lithemba kweentlungu kunye nokuguquka kwesifo.
Zingaphi izizathu! Kubonakala ngathi xa ebomini babantu ababini ababophelelwe umtshato kukho naziphi na iimeko ezichazwe ngasentla, umfazi uya kubakhokelela. Musa ukuthatha zonke ezi zizathu ngendlela engokoqobo. Ubudlelwane kunye nokunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu ngamnye, ngamnye umntu. Ewe, njengokuba ubulumko bendoda ithi: ngokunyanisekileyo awuyi kuba mnandi. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo malunga nokukrexeza, kufuneka uxoxe nomlingane wakho kwaye ufumane kunye okungahambiyo kunye kunye nokuzama ukuphelisa isizathu. Emva kwakho konke, enye yamalungu omtshato omdala ovuyayo - ukukwazi ukuphatha kakuhle iingxaki zomntu osondelene nawe, ukuqonda iimfuno zakhe kunye neminqweno. Ewe, kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo, qulunqa ngokunyanisekileyo onke amanqaku angentla apha.