Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa uninzi lwabasetyhini banamathuba amahle "okubuyela" ukusebenza emva kwekhefu lokubeleka. Babenomntwana wabo, umsebenzi wabo ozithandayo, kwaye kulungile. Kodwa kufuneka ngokwenene ukucwangcisa - ezininzi iingxaki zinokutshatyalaliswa ukuba zilungiswe kakuhle ukuzisombulula.
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Ukuxhalabisa isizathu esona sisisiseko sokuthintela umfazi ukuba angene emsebenzini, esebenzisa amandla akhe. Abasetyhini abakwaziyo ukuba balindele ntoni, ingakumbi ukuba ngumntwana wabo wokuqala, ngoko ke, ukuphuma kokuqala emva komyalelo. Uphononongo lubonise ukuba 1 kwabasetyhini abathathu baneengxaki kunye nomphathi wabo emva kokuba "ukubuya" okunjalo. Kodwa iingxaki ezininzi zingagwenywa ngokuziqonda iimfihlo eziphambili zokunxibelelana nokucwangcisa. Ngaba wakha wacinga ukuba umphathi angase akhathazeke? Ngokukhawuleza wayengakaze amgwebe umfazi okhulelweyo okanye umama omncinci? Mfundise loo nto! Kodwa yenza ngobumnene kwaye unobtrusively, njengowesifazane. Yiba yingcali efanelekileyo kwintsimi yakho. Cwangcisa zonke izenzo ngexesha lomsebenzi - ngoko kuya kuba lula ukufumana inhlangano elahlekileyo. Into ephambili ukuzola. Yaye qiniseka ukuthetha kunye noogxa kunye nomphathi. Nxibelelana nje kuphela, kodwa ungafumani, ugule, cinezela. Yazi amalungelo akho, kodwa ungangeni kwisigxina esithi: "Ndifuna ukuhlonipha amalungelo am." Thetha nabantu ukuze uqinisekise ukuba ufumana inkxaso xa ufuna ngokukhawuleza.
Abaninzi abasetyhini baphikisana ngale ndlela ilandelayo: "Inkampani yam inkulu kakhulu (incinci) kwaye ndicinga ukuba andiyi kufumana inkxaso efunekayo." Kodwa kholwa kum, kukho iingenelo zokuthatha ikhefu lokubeleka kwiinkampani ezinkulu kunye ezincinci. Kwintlangano encinci, yonke into 'yodwa.' Uyazi kakuhle umphathi wakho kwaye uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo umsebenzi. Kuya kuba lula ukuba uthethe ngekhefu lokubeleka. Kodwa inhlangano enkulu iya kuba nelungelo "elikhulu" kulo lonke into ehambelana nekhefu lokubeleka. Zonke iinkqubo kunye nezakhiwo zichaneke ngokucacileyo kwaye zikhawuleze ekusebenzeni. Ukuqhagamshelana nomphathi wakho kwintlangano enjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukude nakakhulu, kodwa oku kwezinye iimeko unesandla kuphela.
Iingxaki ekuxoxeni kunye noogxa - esinye "isikhubekiso" kulo mbandela onzima. Kufuneka uqonde: banokuthi bakhathazeke ukuba baya kukhulisa kakhulu umsebenzi wabo emva kokuba ushiye. Yaye, ngokufanelekileyo, iya kuncipha ngokubuya kwakho. Zibeke endaweni yazo. Musa ukugweba kwaye ungakhubeki. Zama ukudibanisa nabalingane, nantoni na. Bazise ukuba usengumntu ofanayo, uzinikezela emsebenzini wakho. Yenza ukuze bakwazi ukuthembela kuwe.
Abasetyhini abaninzi bacinga ukuba baphathwa ngokungekho mthethweni. Kukholelwa ukuba kwimeko yabo kukho ukucalulwa. Kodwa oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Enyanisweni, bobabini ngaphambi kokushiya umama kwaye emva koko umfazi usengozini kakhulu. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abanye abaqeshi "basebenzise" oku ukubonisa amandla abo, "ukuhlupheka" okanye ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwengqondo yabo kunye nenkcubeko yangaphakathi. Icala ngalinye kufuneka liphathwe ngokukodwa, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ngokungakhethi. Khumbula: umthetho ungasecaleni lakho, kodwa akudingeki ukuba "uphendule amalungelo akho" ngakwesokudla nangobunxele. Kufuneka usebenze apha.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza isigqibo ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ngekhefu lokubeleka:
- Ishedyuli yomsebenzi. Thetha ngale nto nabaphathi bakho. Mhlawumbi unokufeza imisebenzi yakho ngokukhulisa umntwana. Umzekelo, iiyure eziliqela ngosuku. Okanye nasekhaya. Emva koko, kukho imisebenzi evumela. Xoxa nomphathi wakho. Mhlawumbi unokufumana inketho efanelana nawe bobabini.
- Fumana inkxaso efanelekileyo. Thetha kunye nomphathi, kwaye qinisekisa ukuba awuyi "overboard". Musa ukulibala malunga nabo osebenza nabo. Siyakuvuyisela kwiholide zakho, musa ukushiya ibhanki ngonaphakade.
- Qhagamshelana kunye noogxa bakho kunye nabaphathi. Kusuka ekhaya. Yiba nesithakazelo kwimicimbi yenkampani, ungavumeli "uziphose ngaphandle." Kuphela xa ungakhathazeki ngomsebenzi, uya kuba neengqalelo ngokupheleleyo kumntwana wakho.
- Hlela intlanganiso kunye nomphathi wakho emva kweeveki ezi-2-4 emva kokubuya ukujonga ukuba izinto zihamba njani. Qinisekisa ukuba yonke into ilungileyo, ukuba uqhube ukuthetha.